Use Porn To Get a Threesome With Two Chicks
You’ll also want to keep a collection of adult films in your bedroom.
Adult films help to legitimize new sex acts in a woman’s eyes. When she sees others on film doing particular sexual acts, it helps make it okay for her to do them as well.
If you want to get a woman into threesomes, adult films are a great way to plant the seed of the idea into her mind.
If the woman is wary to give blowjobs, through adult films she can watch other women perform oral sex on men and live vicariously through these sexual women on film until she becomes more comfortable with the act.
If you want her to deep throat you, adult films showing deep throat demonstrate how it’s done and what’s possible.
Since adult films are such a great Blissnosis teaching tool, establish early on that watching porn is natural and a normal activity you share together. Within the first month after sex you should be watching a movie with her or emailing explicit pictures back and forth to each other.
If you have a computer, keep some movies on your desktop where she’ll be able to find them easily. If she says, “I found some videos on your computer,” tell her, “Yeah… did you see the one with the belly dancing girls? That one in particular is my favorite.”
If a woman asks if you have porn on your computer, tell her “Yes.” Then bend her over into a submissive position and dry hump her. Don’t make any apologies for your sexual desires as a man, and that includes watching naked women on film.
Of course, if you’re already well established into your relationship and you suddenly introduce the idea of watching adult films, your woman may feel threatened. She may see adult films as sexual competition rather than as a way to expand her sexuality.
That’s why it’s best to introduce your woman to “woman friendly” films first. Watching a white chick getting triple banged by three black dudes behind a dumpster can come later.
You want to start off with films that are fun to watch regardless of the sex and that she’ll feel comfortable with– and yet hardcore enough that they’ll make her sexually excited.
Start with an adult film that has a cover box that doesn’t scream porn, a film geared toward women that emphasizes a sexy environment, sexy costumes, and sexy relationships over than just straight fucking. The best adult films aren’t cheap flicks shot in a motel room. The best films tell interesting stories that tie the sex scenes together with an erotic plot and characters.
To introduce her to the idea of watching an adult movie, just tell her, “Hey my friend Bob recommend a video to me. He told me it’s about this oversexed vampire chick that seduces women and that it’s really great to watch. It would be so sexy for us to see an adult film together.”
Once the hot scenes come on, use your hand to stroke her pussy while you verbally pace the action in the movie. If it’s two girls kissing each other say, “Ooh, you like to watch that. You like to see two girls kissing, that gets you so hot. Touch yourself baby!”
When two men are on one woman at once tell her while you masturbate her pussy, “Ooh yeah, you like to watch that, two men fucking a woman, that turns you on doesn’t it.”
Friday, July 6, 2012
Get One Night Sands With Young Girls In Bars And Clubs
10 Tips To Get One Night Sands With Young Girls In Bars And Clubs
Here’s 10 awesome tips to increase the number of one night stands you’re getting.
Tip #1 – Let Go Of Judging Women
Let go of judging women. Just let go of it. There are no tens. There are no nines. There are no eights. There are no sevens. Just women talking, women dancing, women being women in the background of your musical kaleidoscope of many colors as you smile of the wide smile. They’re just there as part of the show, part of your movie. But you don’t judge them. You don’t rank them. It’s not that important.
Tip #2 – Drop Your “A – Game”
Drop all game. Clear your mind of all canned routines, all canned pick up lines, and all tactics. No game at all. Just relax, smile and let everything go.
Tip #3 – Quit Thinking Ahead
If you want more one night sands, quit thinking ahead. Be dumb. Be a moron. Like a dumb little kid who can’t plan ahead. But be like a child who’s fascinated by music and colors. Being like a child who’s fascinated with his own self amusement. Your head should have nothing, and your body should have a good feeling watching your own movie and smiling ear to ear.
Tip #4 – Relinquish Control
Relinquish control. Just let it go. Don’t try to control anything in the environment. Don’t try to control getting indicators of interest. Don’t try to control how you look. Don’t try to control how you come across to anyone. Don’t try to control your emotions. Don’t try to control your fun. Don’t try to control the situation in any way.
Just trust. Trust that by standing there like a champ, that by smiling, and that by watching the fun of the kaleidoscope, that this ease your purpose and that’s all you need to do. Nothing more needs to be done. So just relax into the exercise and nothing more. Just let everything else go and relax.
Tip #5 – Drop Perfection
If you want one night stands, drop perfection. Just relax. Embrace all of your faults, whether you’re fat or skinny, or broke, or balding, or you don’t feel you’re an awesome conversationalist, or whatever it is. Just accept and embrace all of your imperfections and let go of it all and don’t try to fix anything. As long as you smile and stand like a champ that’s all you need to do. That’s perfect as it is.
Tip #6 – Let go of Negative thoughts
And if you have any negative thoughts, let them go. That’s something you’re choosing and you can choose otherwise.
That which is passed, has passed. Don’t bother about it. Don’t carry it as a burden. Otherwise the past will come into the present and destroy all the fun.
To give attention to the past, or to resist the current moment, or to think negative thoughts, is to play with the wound. And when you play with the wound it starts to bleed.
In the past and negative thoughts corrupts you because he gives you expectations. You become thoughtful, but not fun. You become cunning, but you’re not intelligent.
In memory is a dead thing. Memory is not the truth and cannot ever be the truth, because the truth is always in the present. The truth is the kaleidoscope. Memory is only the persistence of that which is no more. Everything he know of the past is already gone. It is part of the graveyard.
So if you have any negative thoughts at all just relax and let them go. Again, that’s something you’re choosing and you can choose otherwise. Just relax, let go, enjoy the show, smile, and stand like a champ, and you’re golden.
Tip #7 – Don’t Resist The Situation
And don’t resist the situation. Go with the flow. Everything is cool and fun to you, you’re just enjoying the music and the lights and the show. It doesn’t matter how loud the music is. It doesn’t matter what kind of people are there. It doesn’t matter what time it is. None of these small details matter.
Don’t go against the current of existence. Don’t be that guy going upstream fighting the river. Nothing that exists is against you.
Just have a total acceptance of what is in front of the. Accept the moment you are in. Accept the moment of what’s happening right now and enjoy it. It just is what it is.
No girls there? Just laugh and watch the colors. Someone bumps into you? Just laugh and watch the colors. You’re tired? Just laugh and watch the colors.
Simply enjoy being there. The moment is enough and you’re not going anywhere. Be present and be in the moment. Like that child.
Tip #8 – Don’t Seek Her Permission
And this is the most difficult. And that’s to drop all permission seeking. You have permission to stand like a champ. You have permission to have a huge dumb smile on your face. A big smile from ear to ear. You have permission to have your own fun.
So stop caring about what other people think. That’s permission seeking. And just funking do the exercise. Even if it feels uncomfortable at first, and it very well may. Just keep on smiling in your mind will naturally let go of the permission seeking and naturally free itself all on its own.
And remember, you’re not doing this to impress anyone. You’re not smiling to attract the girls. You’re not standing like a champ to get indicators of interest. So don’t be looking for any indicators of interest. Don’t be looking to see if any girls are looking your way. You’re not doing this to make them like you. You’re not doing this to make them except you. This exercise is for you and your mental health alone.
Tip #9 – Drop Your Rules For Being Happy And Having Fun
So you want to meet girls for one night sands. But I mean why not, for no reason, just feel happy right now? What’s stopping you?
No matter where you are, you can generate a cheeky happy smile inside in under a second, no matter what you’re doing. You can create fun from absolutely nothing. You can create loads of fun just by amusing yourself.
You see we have too many rules about when we can feel happy. The conventional thinking goes, “well, when I’m in my sweet spot, yet I can be happy, but when the rest of my life occurs, I have to be normal.”
More people think, they have this rule, “I can be happy, but only when I’m talking to girls.” Or they think, “I can be happy only when I have the approval of girls. They’re laughing at my jokes.”
So we live in a results oriented, goal oriented, desirous, grasping framework where we think, “things should be like XY and Z. and then, and only then, will I be happy. If they are not like exactly XY and Z. then I’m going to be normal are unhappy.”
But here’s the thing. Girls are attracted to positive guys who aren’t dependent on a girl to make them happy. Women want a guy who is positive on his own. After all you don’t want to meet a girl that’s depressed all the time, or just feels blah, unless you’re making her laugh. You want to meet a woman who is perpetually bubbly and positive and happy most of the time. That’s a quality that you want in a quality woman.
And being positive yourself is a prime contractor to women, and the foundation to being able to take action. So you should be able to be happy and positive alone and even for no reason, and not just when you get approval or positive reaction from girls.
Yes, you can feel fun and joy without a hot girl on your arm and without even speaking to anyone. It may seem impossible — how can you feel the party vibe and be smiling and happy and excited at a social party without having girls or friends to talk to?
Then again, you can play sports without a bench of cheering fans can’t you?
You can sing while walking down the street without an audience, can’t you?
So why can’t you enjoy yourself at a party having your own fun, without the attention of a girl?
Look, there’s no reason you can’t be sitting alone in a room and not be radiating a great positive energy, feeling happy, for no particular reason.
The lesson is this — you should always be able to draw state from within yourself and not have to rely on the ever changing external environment to get your positive emotions. Because in a bar or club, or on the street, you could be talking and having a great conversation one moment, and the next moment you’re all by yourself. And if you’re drawing your state from the external environment, that’s going to be one hell of a roller coaster of constant ups and downs.
So you have to be the source of your own good emotions, regardless of what’s going on around you. You always remain positive under any circumstances, you always remain feeling happy and smiling. And you don’t change your state for anyone or anything.
Tip #10 – Drop Your Agenda And Stop Being Outcome-Dependent
You have to drop your agendas. You’re not out there to find your dream girl for. You’re not out there to get your Dick wet, even for a one night sand. You’re not out there to get indicators of interest or to be looking for approval from girls.
Because when you go out there with that based agendas, that’s how you kill the fun. When you go out there desiring, grasping, living in the future, a future which is a real, future which just leaves in your imagination, that comes into the present fun of the moment and destroys it. And you can’t enjoy the present moment where the party in the fun actually lives.
That desiring grasping mind burdens you. It disturbs you. And the thought-based mind is always wavering. it’s always doubting.
So he don’t want an agenda based, desiring mind. No, you have a kaleidoscope mind, a mind like a child’s, a child who giggles and laughs when an adult place peekaboo with them.
No agendas, you have no thoughts, you just let go and relax and enjoy a the color show, you enjoyed the music show. And you stand there tall like a champ with a big smile on your face, and just having loads of fun with it. Completely in the present moment.
And that’s called detaching from the outcome. And when your goal, when your outcome, is not in the future, when there is nothing to be achieved, when your only mission is to celebrate within the psychedelic pretty colors of the kaleidoscope and the music, you have already achieved just by being in the present moment. That is exactly what allows general anxiety to melt away because you’re no longer living in the future, you just surrender yourself to the present moment. And that’s where relaxation comes. That’s where the fun comes.
Because tension only arises when you are chasing something. Tension only arises when you are assuming were expecting something. Where is relaxation and fun arises when you are simply allowing something in the immediate present to happen like watching the kaleidoscope.
Neither the past nor the future exists. All you have in your hands use the present. And when you live in the present unburdened by the past, unburdened by future agendas, that’s when you can smile and lived in the music and have fun – AND the one night stands will come to you.
When you abandon all expectations, when you abandon all grasping, when you abandon all resistance to the present moment, you will have fun.
That doesn’t mean you stop moving. But the moving will be toward a future, exactly. The moving will be as series of nows, each with a direction, but not so attached to a destination that the fun and beauty of the present moment is lost. You just let each moment of enjoying the miraculous dancing colors of the kaleidoscope to be as fun and as for filling and as ordinary as the next. And the one night sands with cute girls will come.
Here’s 10 awesome tips to increase the number of one night stands you’re getting.
Tip #1 – Let Go Of Judging Women
Let go of judging women. Just let go of it. There are no tens. There are no nines. There are no eights. There are no sevens. Just women talking, women dancing, women being women in the background of your musical kaleidoscope of many colors as you smile of the wide smile. They’re just there as part of the show, part of your movie. But you don’t judge them. You don’t rank them. It’s not that important.
Tip #2 – Drop Your “A – Game”
Drop all game. Clear your mind of all canned routines, all canned pick up lines, and all tactics. No game at all. Just relax, smile and let everything go.
Tip #3 – Quit Thinking Ahead
If you want more one night sands, quit thinking ahead. Be dumb. Be a moron. Like a dumb little kid who can’t plan ahead. But be like a child who’s fascinated by music and colors. Being like a child who’s fascinated with his own self amusement. Your head should have nothing, and your body should have a good feeling watching your own movie and smiling ear to ear.
Tip #4 – Relinquish Control
Relinquish control. Just let it go. Don’t try to control anything in the environment. Don’t try to control getting indicators of interest. Don’t try to control how you look. Don’t try to control how you come across to anyone. Don’t try to control your emotions. Don’t try to control your fun. Don’t try to control the situation in any way.
Just trust. Trust that by standing there like a champ, that by smiling, and that by watching the fun of the kaleidoscope, that this ease your purpose and that’s all you need to do. Nothing more needs to be done. So just relax into the exercise and nothing more. Just let everything else go and relax.
Tip #5 – Drop Perfection
If you want one night stands, drop perfection. Just relax. Embrace all of your faults, whether you’re fat or skinny, or broke, or balding, or you don’t feel you’re an awesome conversationalist, or whatever it is. Just accept and embrace all of your imperfections and let go of it all and don’t try to fix anything. As long as you smile and stand like a champ that’s all you need to do. That’s perfect as it is.
Tip #6 – Let go of Negative thoughts
And if you have any negative thoughts, let them go. That’s something you’re choosing and you can choose otherwise.
That which is passed, has passed. Don’t bother about it. Don’t carry it as a burden. Otherwise the past will come into the present and destroy all the fun.
To give attention to the past, or to resist the current moment, or to think negative thoughts, is to play with the wound. And when you play with the wound it starts to bleed.
In the past and negative thoughts corrupts you because he gives you expectations. You become thoughtful, but not fun. You become cunning, but you’re not intelligent.
In memory is a dead thing. Memory is not the truth and cannot ever be the truth, because the truth is always in the present. The truth is the kaleidoscope. Memory is only the persistence of that which is no more. Everything he know of the past is already gone. It is part of the graveyard.
So if you have any negative thoughts at all just relax and let them go. Again, that’s something you’re choosing and you can choose otherwise. Just relax, let go, enjoy the show, smile, and stand like a champ, and you’re golden.
Tip #7 – Don’t Resist The Situation
And don’t resist the situation. Go with the flow. Everything is cool and fun to you, you’re just enjoying the music and the lights and the show. It doesn’t matter how loud the music is. It doesn’t matter what kind of people are there. It doesn’t matter what time it is. None of these small details matter.
Don’t go against the current of existence. Don’t be that guy going upstream fighting the river. Nothing that exists is against you.
Just have a total acceptance of what is in front of the. Accept the moment you are in. Accept the moment of what’s happening right now and enjoy it. It just is what it is.
No girls there? Just laugh and watch the colors. Someone bumps into you? Just laugh and watch the colors. You’re tired? Just laugh and watch the colors.
Simply enjoy being there. The moment is enough and you’re not going anywhere. Be present and be in the moment. Like that child.
Tip #8 – Don’t Seek Her Permission
And this is the most difficult. And that’s to drop all permission seeking. You have permission to stand like a champ. You have permission to have a huge dumb smile on your face. A big smile from ear to ear. You have permission to have your own fun.
So stop caring about what other people think. That’s permission seeking. And just funking do the exercise. Even if it feels uncomfortable at first, and it very well may. Just keep on smiling in your mind will naturally let go of the permission seeking and naturally free itself all on its own.
And remember, you’re not doing this to impress anyone. You’re not smiling to attract the girls. You’re not standing like a champ to get indicators of interest. So don’t be looking for any indicators of interest. Don’t be looking to see if any girls are looking your way. You’re not doing this to make them like you. You’re not doing this to make them except you. This exercise is for you and your mental health alone.
Tip #9 – Drop Your Rules For Being Happy And Having Fun
So you want to meet girls for one night sands. But I mean why not, for no reason, just feel happy right now? What’s stopping you?
No matter where you are, you can generate a cheeky happy smile inside in under a second, no matter what you’re doing. You can create fun from absolutely nothing. You can create loads of fun just by amusing yourself.
You see we have too many rules about when we can feel happy. The conventional thinking goes, “well, when I’m in my sweet spot, yet I can be happy, but when the rest of my life occurs, I have to be normal.”
More people think, they have this rule, “I can be happy, but only when I’m talking to girls.” Or they think, “I can be happy only when I have the approval of girls. They’re laughing at my jokes.”
So we live in a results oriented, goal oriented, desirous, grasping framework where we think, “things should be like XY and Z. and then, and only then, will I be happy. If they are not like exactly XY and Z. then I’m going to be normal are unhappy.”
But here’s the thing. Girls are attracted to positive guys who aren’t dependent on a girl to make them happy. Women want a guy who is positive on his own. After all you don’t want to meet a girl that’s depressed all the time, or just feels blah, unless you’re making her laugh. You want to meet a woman who is perpetually bubbly and positive and happy most of the time. That’s a quality that you want in a quality woman.
And being positive yourself is a prime contractor to women, and the foundation to being able to take action. So you should be able to be happy and positive alone and even for no reason, and not just when you get approval or positive reaction from girls.
Yes, you can feel fun and joy without a hot girl on your arm and without even speaking to anyone. It may seem impossible — how can you feel the party vibe and be smiling and happy and excited at a social party without having girls or friends to talk to?
Then again, you can play sports without a bench of cheering fans can’t you?
You can sing while walking down the street without an audience, can’t you?
So why can’t you enjoy yourself at a party having your own fun, without the attention of a girl?
Look, there’s no reason you can’t be sitting alone in a room and not be radiating a great positive energy, feeling happy, for no particular reason.
The lesson is this — you should always be able to draw state from within yourself and not have to rely on the ever changing external environment to get your positive emotions. Because in a bar or club, or on the street, you could be talking and having a great conversation one moment, and the next moment you’re all by yourself. And if you’re drawing your state from the external environment, that’s going to be one hell of a roller coaster of constant ups and downs.
So you have to be the source of your own good emotions, regardless of what’s going on around you. You always remain positive under any circumstances, you always remain feeling happy and smiling. And you don’t change your state for anyone or anything.
Tip #10 – Drop Your Agenda And Stop Being Outcome-Dependent
You have to drop your agendas. You’re not out there to find your dream girl for. You’re not out there to get your Dick wet, even for a one night sand. You’re not out there to get indicators of interest or to be looking for approval from girls.
Because when you go out there with that based agendas, that’s how you kill the fun. When you go out there desiring, grasping, living in the future, a future which is a real, future which just leaves in your imagination, that comes into the present fun of the moment and destroys it. And you can’t enjoy the present moment where the party in the fun actually lives.
That desiring grasping mind burdens you. It disturbs you. And the thought-based mind is always wavering. it’s always doubting.
So he don’t want an agenda based, desiring mind. No, you have a kaleidoscope mind, a mind like a child’s, a child who giggles and laughs when an adult place peekaboo with them.
No agendas, you have no thoughts, you just let go and relax and enjoy a the color show, you enjoyed the music show. And you stand there tall like a champ with a big smile on your face, and just having loads of fun with it. Completely in the present moment.
And that’s called detaching from the outcome. And when your goal, when your outcome, is not in the future, when there is nothing to be achieved, when your only mission is to celebrate within the psychedelic pretty colors of the kaleidoscope and the music, you have already achieved just by being in the present moment. That is exactly what allows general anxiety to melt away because you’re no longer living in the future, you just surrender yourself to the present moment. And that’s where relaxation comes. That’s where the fun comes.
Because tension only arises when you are chasing something. Tension only arises when you are assuming were expecting something. Where is relaxation and fun arises when you are simply allowing something in the immediate present to happen like watching the kaleidoscope.
Neither the past nor the future exists. All you have in your hands use the present. And when you live in the present unburdened by the past, unburdened by future agendas, that’s when you can smile and lived in the music and have fun – AND the one night stands will come to you.
When you abandon all expectations, when you abandon all grasping, when you abandon all resistance to the present moment, you will have fun.
That doesn’t mean you stop moving. But the moving will be toward a future, exactly. The moving will be as series of nows, each with a direction, but not so attached to a destination that the fun and beauty of the present moment is lost. You just let each moment of enjoying the miraculous dancing colors of the kaleidoscope to be as fun and as for filling and as ordinary as the next. And the one night sands with cute girls will come.
How To Impress Girls With Your Car
How To Impress Girls With Your Car
Car that girls like
I want to talk about your car. Your ride. Your automobile. Or lack of one.
Now, a lot of guys think that they need a hot car to impress a girl. Or at least a clean car.
And it’s true because the luxury car market is a multi-billion dollars business geared often to guys to impress girls, or bought by guys to impress their girlfriend or wife.
Since you’re more enlightened than the average guy, you probably don’t think you need a hot car either to get girls. BUT on the other hand, you also probably think that it wouldn’t hurt you, right? If you had a hot car, all else being equal, that would be better right?
But actually, desiring a hot girl to impress girls will only screw up your game. AND actually owning a great car to impress girls will screw up your game.
It comes down to a difference between having Core Confidence and between looking for External Validation.
Core Confidence is where you believe you’re the coolest guy on the planet, despite your material circumstances, despite your flaws, and despite your car. You are the coolest guy on the planet, period.
And if you’re driving a shitty, old car, you make the car cool, because YOU are cool.
External validation on the other hand, is you feel naked and unworthy of a quality girl, and you compensate by referencing your confidence from something external, like owning an expensive car.
Core confidence: You are the coolest guy on the planet, and by extension your car is cool too, even if it’s a piece of junk and dirty. Because YOU are so damn cool, that makes your car cool too, because everything you touch is cool. That’s core confidence, almost like a delusional self narcissism.
External validation: You feel unworthy and uncool, but if and when you have a fancy hot car, that value will transfer to you, and you’ll become a little cooler when the girl sees you with your fancy car. That’s relying on external validation.
And obviously, you want to have Core Confidence, not giving a FUCK what you drive.
Because worrying about your car, or deriving confidence from your car to impress a girl, is a subtle form of kissing ass, a subtle form of approval seeking, a subtle form of supplication.
And a guy with Core Confidence and 20 year old Ford Escort is more attractive than a guy with a fancy guy relying on it for external validation. And here’s why.
Number one. A kind of guy who doesn’t have core confidence and is worried about shit like the car he drives, is typically is too scared to approach girls in the first place, or physically escalate, or lead the girl to a date. So usually the girl will never see his fancy car anyway let alone find herself in his bedroom.
Number two. The guy relying on his car to impress the girl is subtly kissing ass, he’s supplicating, he’s looking for the girl’s approval, he’s looking for external validation from the girl. He’s looking to the car to fill a void inside himself, to be liked by the girl. In other words, HE doesn’t feel worthy of the girl and he’s using the car to compensate.
Number three. Having an expensive car screams wealthy provider to the girl. It does NOT indicate to her sexual bad boy. So even if you can get the girl out of the bookstore or bar into your car, she’ll see you as dating material, where she’ll want to date you for months on end before having sex because she sees you as provider. Whereas girls have sex with bad boys for good, wild sex, and they have sex more quickly with broke bad boys.
And that’s why a lot of wealthier guys, when they take the girl on a date in their Benz and show the girl their big house, the girl doesn’t want to have sex with him, because she’s eyeing him up for his provider resources instead. The material things makes her LIKE you as a potential longterm investment, but it doesn’t make her HORNY. There’s a big difference there, and you don’t want that.
Number four. If you’re deriving confidence from your car, you don’t feel worthy. So if you’re not with your car, like anyplace you’re actually going to meet women, you’re going to feel half empty because your crutch, your car, isn’t with you. And your state drops. Then, you get into your expensive car, you feel good again, and your state spikes… but there’s no girls there. So your confidence and state goes up and down, up and down, depending on where you are, and it’s not consistent, and it’s like a rollercoaster. You don’t want that either.
Number five. Circumstances change. Even if you buy that expensive car one day, you can’t guarantee that you’ll always have the money in the future to make the payments. You could lose a job. You could experience a drop in income. And you don’t want your confidence and sense of entitlement dependent on an expensive toy that one day you may not have in the future.
Number six. Cool, down-to-earth girls will like your expensive car because it indicates you’re a provider, which is a problem, BUT it’s also going to attract the gold-diggers. The gold-digger types, the kind of girls you DON’T want to attract, will gravitate to you because you’re relying on MONEY to attract women. And it can bring out the gold-digger side in normal girls as well. Bad, bad, bad.
So, if you are desiring an expensive car, that desiring will cripple you. And if you already have an expensive car, that car is crippling your game.
Really, I suggest some unorthodox advice here. If you’ve got an expensive car, SELL IT OFF.
You’re going to save yourself a LOT of money that you can use going out, or traveling, or taking a workshop, or whatever it is that will go much farther in bang-for-your-buck with girls than a car will take you.
Car that girls like
I want to talk about your car. Your ride. Your automobile. Or lack of one.
Now, a lot of guys think that they need a hot car to impress a girl. Or at least a clean car.
And it’s true because the luxury car market is a multi-billion dollars business geared often to guys to impress girls, or bought by guys to impress their girlfriend or wife.
Since you’re more enlightened than the average guy, you probably don’t think you need a hot car either to get girls. BUT on the other hand, you also probably think that it wouldn’t hurt you, right? If you had a hot car, all else being equal, that would be better right?
But actually, desiring a hot girl to impress girls will only screw up your game. AND actually owning a great car to impress girls will screw up your game.
It comes down to a difference between having Core Confidence and between looking for External Validation.
Core Confidence is where you believe you’re the coolest guy on the planet, despite your material circumstances, despite your flaws, and despite your car. You are the coolest guy on the planet, period.
And if you’re driving a shitty, old car, you make the car cool, because YOU are cool.
External validation on the other hand, is you feel naked and unworthy of a quality girl, and you compensate by referencing your confidence from something external, like owning an expensive car.
Core confidence: You are the coolest guy on the planet, and by extension your car is cool too, even if it’s a piece of junk and dirty. Because YOU are so damn cool, that makes your car cool too, because everything you touch is cool. That’s core confidence, almost like a delusional self narcissism.
External validation: You feel unworthy and uncool, but if and when you have a fancy hot car, that value will transfer to you, and you’ll become a little cooler when the girl sees you with your fancy car. That’s relying on external validation.
And obviously, you want to have Core Confidence, not giving a FUCK what you drive.
Because worrying about your car, or deriving confidence from your car to impress a girl, is a subtle form of kissing ass, a subtle form of approval seeking, a subtle form of supplication.
And a guy with Core Confidence and 20 year old Ford Escort is more attractive than a guy with a fancy guy relying on it for external validation. And here’s why.
Number one. A kind of guy who doesn’t have core confidence and is worried about shit like the car he drives, is typically is too scared to approach girls in the first place, or physically escalate, or lead the girl to a date. So usually the girl will never see his fancy car anyway let alone find herself in his bedroom.
Number two. The guy relying on his car to impress the girl is subtly kissing ass, he’s supplicating, he’s looking for the girl’s approval, he’s looking for external validation from the girl. He’s looking to the car to fill a void inside himself, to be liked by the girl. In other words, HE doesn’t feel worthy of the girl and he’s using the car to compensate.
Number three. Having an expensive car screams wealthy provider to the girl. It does NOT indicate to her sexual bad boy. So even if you can get the girl out of the bookstore or bar into your car, she’ll see you as dating material, where she’ll want to date you for months on end before having sex because she sees you as provider. Whereas girls have sex with bad boys for good, wild sex, and they have sex more quickly with broke bad boys.
And that’s why a lot of wealthier guys, when they take the girl on a date in their Benz and show the girl their big house, the girl doesn’t want to have sex with him, because she’s eyeing him up for his provider resources instead. The material things makes her LIKE you as a potential longterm investment, but it doesn’t make her HORNY. There’s a big difference there, and you don’t want that.
Number four. If you’re deriving confidence from your car, you don’t feel worthy. So if you’re not with your car, like anyplace you’re actually going to meet women, you’re going to feel half empty because your crutch, your car, isn’t with you. And your state drops. Then, you get into your expensive car, you feel good again, and your state spikes… but there’s no girls there. So your confidence and state goes up and down, up and down, depending on where you are, and it’s not consistent, and it’s like a rollercoaster. You don’t want that either.
Number five. Circumstances change. Even if you buy that expensive car one day, you can’t guarantee that you’ll always have the money in the future to make the payments. You could lose a job. You could experience a drop in income. And you don’t want your confidence and sense of entitlement dependent on an expensive toy that one day you may not have in the future.
Number six. Cool, down-to-earth girls will like your expensive car because it indicates you’re a provider, which is a problem, BUT it’s also going to attract the gold-diggers. The gold-digger types, the kind of girls you DON’T want to attract, will gravitate to you because you’re relying on MONEY to attract women. And it can bring out the gold-digger side in normal girls as well. Bad, bad, bad.
So, if you are desiring an expensive car, that desiring will cripple you. And if you already have an expensive car, that car is crippling your game.
Really, I suggest some unorthodox advice here. If you’ve got an expensive car, SELL IT OFF.
You’re going to save yourself a LOT of money that you can use going out, or traveling, or taking a workshop, or whatever it is that will go much farther in bang-for-your-buck with girls than a car will take you.
Magnetically Attract A New Girlfriend
Magnetically Attract A New Girlfriend
The Female Magnet Exercise
So, what kind of beautiful women DO you want?
For magnetically attracting beautiful women into your life with this exercise, list all the qualities and characteristics of the kind of girl you want to attract. If you know what these characteristics are, you will be more successful because you’ll know what to look for.
What kind of women would you like to have? Do you want an explosive one-night stand or a hot, passionate relationship? Take your time and list as many qualities as you want in a woman.
Here are some examples:
“I like a woman who is very sexual and is always eager to have a wild time with me in bed. I also like a woman who is down to earth and doesn’t expect me to pay for everything… a woman who is happy and open. I want a woman that knows when to get dirty but also knows when to act like a lady. Someone who keeps in shape and has a great body and nice breasts. Oh yeah, and one that treats me like a god!”
Now to do this female magnet exercise for attracting beautiful women,
-Think of the qualities you want in a woman that you listed earlier
So, what kind of beautiful women DO you want?
For magnetically attracting beautiful women into your life with this exercise, list all the qualities and characteristics of the kind of girl you want to attract. If you know what these characteristics are, you will be more successful because you’ll know what to look for.
What kind of women would you like to have? Do you want an explosive one-night stand or a hot, passionate relationship? Take your time and list as many qualities as you want in a woman.
Here are some examples:
“I like a woman who is very sexual and is always eager to have a wild time with me in bed. I also like a woman who is down to earth and doesn’t expect me to pay for everything… a woman who is happy and open. I want a woman that knows when to get dirty but also knows when to act like a lady. Someone who keeps in shape and has a great body and nice breasts. Oh yeah, and one that treats me like a god!”
Now to do this female magnet exercise for attracting beautiful women,
-Think of the qualities you want in a woman that you listed earlier
-Begin to focus on feeling the presence of the kind of woman you’re wishing to attract.
Imagine that she’s right there, right in front of you.
-As you do this, focus on the feeling of being connected to her.
-Imagine a cord of green sex energy coming from your chest to her breasts, connecting both of you… focus in on this feeling.
-Imagine a cord of yellow sex energy coming from your eyes to her eyes, connecting both of you.
-Imagine a cord of red sex energy coming from your groin to her groin, really connecting both of you now, as you really focus in on this feeling.
-Imagine a cord of orange sex energy coming from the top of your stomach (the area where you feel butterflies) to hers, connecting both of you.
-Imagine a cord of blue sex energy coming from your throat to her tongue, connecting both of you.
-Imagine a cord of gold sex energy coming from your forehead to her lips, connecting both of you. Really focus in on this feeling.
-Focus on all six sex connections and a feeling of well-being
-As you focus on the feelings of the six connections, notice what happens as you double the intensity of the feeling
-Now in your mind, switch places with her. Step into her body, feeling what she’s feeling, and have her step into your body, feeling the six sex connections.
-Hear her thoughts listing your best qualities from the inside of her mind.
-Step back into your body, continuing to feel all six sex connections.
-Send her the feeling of anticipation toward the day you meet in the near future.
-Count to yourself from 1 to 5, saying, “Now I will count from 1 to 5. And when I do, I will awaken, feeling much better than I have ever felt before…1… 2… 3… 4… and 5.”
Do this female magnet exercise no more than twice a week for attracting beautiful women. Go on about your normal life… you’ll find yourself drawn to go to new places… trust your intuition and follow this. When you meet this woman, she may or may not be everything you wanted. That’s ok. Just repeat the exercise, but be clear in the qualities you want in a woman.
This relates to the baseball player imagining his homers. You need to SEE a goal to get to it. The more concrete the goal, the better your chances.
You alert yourself – on both conscious and subconscious levels – to recognize the lady you want and you’d be surprised how many guys miss her because they’re too busy worrying about something else during the crucial moment.
And you make chance encounters with the right type of woman and attracting beautiful women MORE likely just be exercising the encounter.
Quick Success To A Girlfriend Through Baby Steps
Quick Success To A Girlfriend Through Baby Steps
You want a girlfriend or get laid more but not sure where to begin?
Sometimes you need to give yourself a 30 day challenge.
You commit to a goal for 30 days.
Maybe you’re going to say hello to a girl each day for 30 days.
Or you’re going to go out to a nightlife spot every day for 30 days.
Or you’re going to work on speaking more loudly every day for 30 days.
Or your challenge could be that you’ll be less reactive in your interactions for 30 days, or you’ll persist longer than you would normally, and do that for 30 days…
But a 30 day challenge that you’ll carry out every single day, for 30 days.
And during those 30 days, you absolutely commit that every day, no matter how you feel, whether you feel good or bad, or inspired or unmotivated, or you feel energized or not, you will partake in your 30 day challenge, and go up to the girl and say hello, or work on your voice, or hit the nightlife spots.
Every day, without fail!
Your brain might resist during those 30 days, but you just force yourself to do it.
And the reason to do a 30 day challenge, 30 days consecutively in a row, is that you want to build momentum.
Momentum Is Key
Let’s say you want to work on approaching women. If you just go out once a week, well those other 6 days you lose all your momentum!
So when the 7th day to go out comes back around, you’re not going to feel like doing. You’re not building a habit. And you just feel really rusty again on that 7th day.
It’s just like if you want to learn a new language, say Spanish. How fast can you really learn it, if you just study once a twice a week? You’re not going to become fluent.
Or with bodybuilding. You’re not going to get sexy strong if you just hit the gym once or twice a week. You lose momentum on those in-between days you’re not working out. So every day you feel rusty again.
It’s like jumping into a cold swimming pool. If you jump in everyday, the cold pool it never feels WARM. But you’re more likely to jump into the pool tomorrow if you did it today.
So what we’re really talking about is building up macro-momentum for 30 days.
Why 30 Day Goals Work Best
And a 30 day challenge is really a great way to build and develop a new habit. We all know that starting and sticking with a new habit the first week or two is the hardest part. But once you overcome the initial inertia holding you back that first week or two, it gets much easier to keep going.
So forcing yourself through for 30 days is about how long you need to take to really see improvement and build a new habit for yourself.
Also, 30 days is a reasonable goal. I can say hello to new girls every day for 30 days, and then I can quit and go back to my old habits. That’s easier than committing to a permanent change in habits, and it doesn’t seem so hard anymore. Do it for just 30 days, and then quit. Meet girls for 30 days, and then I can slack off.
Those 30 days will still require commitment, persistence, and discipline, but it’s not so hard as committing to a big permanent change. It’s just temporary to strengthen your habits in a positive direction. And you can count down the days until you’re finished.
So you get the benefits, you get macro-momentum, it’s long enough to build up and strengthen better habits, and yet you can count down the days until you’re finished. You can handle that.
And then you’ll have 30 days of success behind you. So you can then, if you feel like, commit to a new 30 day challenge. But this time it will feel a lot EASIER because you’ve already built momentum and you’ll have more experience and confidence to continue with a new challenge.
The First Days Are The Hardest
The key to completing a 30 day challenge is to continue despite feeling the ups and downs. Anytime you start out on a new habit or discipline or change in your schedule or routine, at first you’ll feel inspired the first day or two.
You’ll be eager to go out and say hello to girls on the first day of the challenge.
Than a few days into it, you won’t feel so motivated anymore. But that’s the most important time to stick with your 30 day challenge and force yourself to go through the motions.
Then a few days after that, you’ll have continued building the momentum, and you’ll feel enthusiastic again.
And then your enthusiasm will waiver, and then it will come back again. But you’ve got to stick with it for 30 days through the highs and lows.
And by the end of the 30 days, it will just feel more like something that you just do, like a regular habit, and your brain stops resisting or rollercoasting, and it just more accepts it.
And then you’re done, you’re finished, and then you can decide to give yourself a new, and modified 30 day challenge.
So that’s an easier way to learn how to pickup girls, by giving yourself challenges and focusing on 1 or 2 things you really want to focus on at a time and breaking it down into more manageable chunks.
The Newbie Challenge
Sometimes I like to go on a 30 day challenge for myself, where I straight up take the mentality of being a total newbie again. A student of the game. No ego allowed here. As if it were my first day ever going back out again. A newbie-style mission of taking my lumps.
Going out every night or every day, 30 days in a row.
Forgetting everything I did in the past, any accomplishment, any fuck-ups, it’s like I’m starting the slate clean from the beginning as if I have no history.
And going out for 30 nights in a row is pretty awesome. It’s all about building up momentum.
The first week is pretty tough of course. You get run down and tired and sleepy from not sleeping enough. Or you feel like your balls are getting busted and it’s a hard slog.
But if you stick with it, you’ll find that at the end of 30 days you’ll be just itching to get back out there and it will become the most anticipated part of your day.
It’s pretty simple. Sunday through Wednesday just hit up a bar for happy hour and stick with it for an hour or two to keep some social momentum, keep your social muscles alert and active. And talk to whoever you can find just to work those social muscles.
Thursday, Friday, Saturday, those are your nights to SHINE. That’s because that’s when the hottest clubs typically are open.
And you’ll see a real payoff from going out all week on the Mondays and Tuesdays and Wednesdays, because when you hit the weekend, instead of being rusty, you’ll already have social momentum right out of the gate, and you hit the ground running on the weekends.
And what’s cool about socializing every day for 30 days is that you’ll find talking to girls becomes more of an *automatic* process. Because you become so used to it, and since you’re going out every night your brain just comes to accept that it’s going to happen, no matter what.
And of course your criteria for success has to be really simple, as if you’re starting out all over again. And that’s just to open. The conversation just needs to last two minutes. And if you open, you’ve won the game.
Understanding Habits And Motivation
And if you don’t feel that you have the motivation to do a 30 day challenge, you’ve got to remember something about motivation.
Motivation is based on habits. And developing a new habit is all about momentum. If you want to develop a new habit, like going out and meeting girls, you’ve got to develop momentum.
So the first week will be very rough. You won’t feel like going out, because you don’t yet the motivation, you don’t have the momentum yet, you don’t have the habit yet. So the first week is rough, you’ve got to rely on willpower.
But after the first week, you’ll have the habit of going out, the momentum, and it will become easier and easier until after the 30 day challenge it will feel like a normal, everyday part of your life and will become much easier.
So seriously, a 30 day challenge of going out every day is something you want to DO for yourself. And it’s only 30 days, it’s not forever. That’s why you can do it.
And I guarantee you, there’s not a single guy in the world who does a 30 day “going out” challenge who regrets it, every guy finds it to be a great, growing experience for the better and is glad for having pushed himself to undertake the challenge.
Seduce Young Women Uncensored: Your Step By Step Guide
Seduce Young Women Uncensored: Your Step By Step Guide
The fact is, any red-blooded 85 year old man would make love to a teenage, 18 year-old girl if given half the chance and given her blessing.
And yes, it’s perfectly NORMAL to desire far younger women.
Any guy who says, “Oh I wouldn’t ever sleep with an 18 year old,” is either lying out of fear of being judged, or because societal reprogramming tells him to react that way.
Because from a biological standpoint, men are driven to mate with the most sexually fertile women.
And women are most sexually fertile when they hit puberty at around age 14, and continuing into their early 20s.
As a man, you’re programmed over millions of years to be attracted to young women coming right into puberty, with their budding breasts and widening hips.
And most men, regardless of their age, are exclusively attracted to younger women.
You’re not going to see Hugh Hefner cavorting with 40 year olds, even though he’s over 80.
So it doesn’t make you “bad” or “creepy” to desire far younger women. Men have always secretly desired very young women and they always will, regardless of what others think of it.
Yet many will label an older man “a pervert” for even admitting he’s attracted to younger girls.
That’s ridiculous.
Advertisers rub hyper-sexualized, young women into our faces non-stop to sell products, and then society tells us it’s wrong and shameful to admit our desire for them.
If 18 year-old girls were attractive back when you were 18, why wouldn’t you still be attracted to them because you’re 40? Or 60? …or 80!
So ignore those who think there’s something wrong with being sexually attracted to younger women, even ‘barely legal’ women. It’s both natural and normal to sexually desire them, and you shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed by your natural desires as a man.
Instead, EMBRACE your God-given sexual desires and embrace your male sexuality. Make no apologies to anyone for it!
What Younger Girls Really Think About Older Men
And here’s why, as an older man, you can actually pick up younger women, far younger women like 15 or even 25 years younger than yourself, and why women actually like, and in many cases are looking for, older men.
Or when if you’re a younger guy, say 25 and you are attracted to that 18 year old hottie, you shouldn’t be self-conscious about going for her, or even if you’re 35 or 45 you can make it work.
In fact, it’s very normal for hot young girls to date older guys. And most women are dating or are married to older guys, and sometimes much older guys. This is fact. This is reality.
Because the attraction switches are different for women than it is for men. We’re looking for youth, appearance, looks in women. But women are attracted to a myriad of factors. They’re looking for a guy you leads, who can get physical with them which means your confident, and they’re looking for indications of status and power.
And looking older, particularly if you are still eating healthy and you workout and look halfway decent, is an indication to women of status and power. Age indicates maturity and decision making ability. And women are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability, and emotional maturity.
And every woman’s secret wish is to be taken care of. I don’t mean just economically, but to find a guy that unconditionally loves her, is faithful to her, gives her attention, and is dedicated to her and making the relationship playful, fun, and make it work.
And that’s not something most younger guys are really in a position to do. Younger guys are still sleeping around, aren’t faithful, aren’t into self-development or figuring out how to make relationships work. So most young girls are very disappointed in their relationships with young men. It’s full of drama and disappointment.
And these young girls feel an older man won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.
Why Young Girls Are Easier
And most older guys who are say 25 to 50 years old think of younger women as being age 25 to 30 or so. But actually, the very, very younger girls like ages 18 to 22 are sometimes the MOST attractive to older men.
In fact, a girl in her early 20’s is often easier to game than a girl in her late 20’s or early 30’s.
Because a 21 year old girl is just out to have fun, she’s looking to have new experience, and dating a much older man is just another one of those experiences she’s looking to have. She’s in that experimental age and she wants to explore.
But by the time a woman hits 30 and she’s still single, she’s feeling that biological clock ticking. They feel the pressure that they’re not so young anymore and that their beauty is fading. A woman is 29 or 30 or 31 is looking more for a man who’s closer to her own age because she’s more desperate now to settle down and get married and have kids.
So actually, if you’re an in-shape 45 year old, you can actually get more interest in many case from a woman who is 21, as opposed to a woman who is 31 who feels her youth slipping away and is more resistant to older men.
And as far as the younger girls, you know some of these girls ONLY want a guy their own age.
BUT these girls tend to not be as feminine and have lower sex drives. The more sexually open, sexually driven, crazy-for-experimentation driven, and hyper feminine and sexual girls tend to go for older men and bad boys. They tend to like older guys, and that type of young girls also is much better in bed.
So usually you have better luck with the more feminine, hyper sexual girls than the young girl who is more frumpy and unfeminine.
Older Men Are Better For Younger Women
And really, objectively, younger women are generally better off with older men.
You’ve got more to offer her. Maybe you can’t have sex 3 times a day like you did when you were 21, but you offer stability, wisdom, comfort, meaningful companionship, more varied sex… far more so than a young guy who isn’t developed.
In fact, studies show that the relationships that last, and marriages that are least likely to end in divorce, is when the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man. When the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man, relationships tend to be more stable.
So if you’re an older guy, and you take care of yourself physically, you’ve actually got some big advantages when it comes to getting far younger girls and you’re most likely a better fit for a younger girl than a boy her own age.
So don’t feel shy or shameful about desiring or seeking out younger women, it’s perfectly natural, good for you, and good for the girls too.
Older Guys – Avoid Being The “Nice Guy”!
Older guys especially get wrapped up in doing “Nice guy game” with younger women.
Nice guy game is looking for indicators of interest from the girl before you’ll talk to her or move forward.
Nice guy game is looking for permission to do anything with the girl.
Nice guy game is being too much of a sweet, sweet grandfatherly gentlemen to the girl.
Nice guy game is all light conversation, asking her questions, but there’s very little conversational leading or getting physical or touching the girl.
Nice guy game is all about reacting to the girl instead of physically leading the girl, or leading the conversation.
Nice guy game is all about trying to impress the girl by not doing anything wrong, instead of not giving a fuck what the girl thinks.
Nice guy game is all about being super friendly with a big smile on your face… but in a supplicating, kiss-her-ass kind of way.
And that’s the problem with older guys in particular, is that they’re too nice, they’re too permission seeking, they’re too approval seeking, they’re conversational but not physical, they’re looking too much for permission and IOIs to escalate or continue.
And they’re just that nice older man to talk to, but ultimately kind of boring to a younger girl because it’s too much like their Dad and not enough like a bad boy.
Basically, you have to run the same game at 35, at age 45, at age 55, at age 65, as if you were the bad boy kid at age 25. The game doesn’t change based on your age when you’re hitting younger girls.
And that’s why there’s really no special “trick” or line or routine for an older guy to pickup younger girls. Because this is a strictly inner game issue.
You’re not going to find any lines or outer game routines that makes it okay for you to approach younger girls. It’s all core attitude, beliefs, entitlement, vibe, and manhood that attracts both younger women and older women to you.
Don’t look for IOIs either
Particularly this waiting for permission or waiting for IOIs (“Indicators Of Interest” )from the younger girl will just sink you completely.
And that’s because, although younger women are attracted to older guys for what they can provide, like more maturity and experience and status and power, younger girls will generally NOT approach you or give you indicators of interest of permission. They make you do ALL the work.
And that’s because what holds a younger woman back, is not what she thinks of you being an older man, but fear of judgment from her friends and peers.
In the same way women fear being labeled sluts if they like to have sex, so they don’t act overtly sexual, they don’t want to be labeled negatively by their friends if they blatantly go after an older man by giving him all sorts of IOI signals to come on over.
So younger girls will generally HIDE their interest from older men for fear of being judged, even though it’s something they’d secretly like to try.
That’s why, as an older man, the ball is completely in YOUR court to go up and talk to the girl, to lead the conversation, and to lead her physically because the much younger girl will in general do nothing to help you. It’s all on you, and being the super nice guy, waiting for permission, light conversation man will generally get you nowhere with younger women.
The fact is, any red-blooded 85 year old man would make love to a teenage, 18 year-old girl if given half the chance and given her blessing.
And yes, it’s perfectly NORMAL to desire far younger women.
Any guy who says, “Oh I wouldn’t ever sleep with an 18 year old,” is either lying out of fear of being judged, or because societal reprogramming tells him to react that way.
Because from a biological standpoint, men are driven to mate with the most sexually fertile women.
And women are most sexually fertile when they hit puberty at around age 14, and continuing into their early 20s.
As a man, you’re programmed over millions of years to be attracted to young women coming right into puberty, with their budding breasts and widening hips.
And most men, regardless of their age, are exclusively attracted to younger women.
You’re not going to see Hugh Hefner cavorting with 40 year olds, even though he’s over 80.
So it doesn’t make you “bad” or “creepy” to desire far younger women. Men have always secretly desired very young women and they always will, regardless of what others think of it.
Yet many will label an older man “a pervert” for even admitting he’s attracted to younger girls.
That’s ridiculous.
Advertisers rub hyper-sexualized, young women into our faces non-stop to sell products, and then society tells us it’s wrong and shameful to admit our desire for them.
If 18 year-old girls were attractive back when you were 18, why wouldn’t you still be attracted to them because you’re 40? Or 60? …or 80!
So ignore those who think there’s something wrong with being sexually attracted to younger women, even ‘barely legal’ women. It’s both natural and normal to sexually desire them, and you shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed by your natural desires as a man.
Instead, EMBRACE your God-given sexual desires and embrace your male sexuality. Make no apologies to anyone for it!
What Younger Girls Really Think About Older Men
And here’s why, as an older man, you can actually pick up younger women, far younger women like 15 or even 25 years younger than yourself, and why women actually like, and in many cases are looking for, older men.
Or when if you’re a younger guy, say 25 and you are attracted to that 18 year old hottie, you shouldn’t be self-conscious about going for her, or even if you’re 35 or 45 you can make it work.
In fact, it’s very normal for hot young girls to date older guys. And most women are dating or are married to older guys, and sometimes much older guys. This is fact. This is reality.
Because the attraction switches are different for women than it is for men. We’re looking for youth, appearance, looks in women. But women are attracted to a myriad of factors. They’re looking for a guy you leads, who can get physical with them which means your confident, and they’re looking for indications of status and power.
And looking older, particularly if you are still eating healthy and you workout and look halfway decent, is an indication to women of status and power. Age indicates maturity and decision making ability. And women are attracted to an older man’s accomplishments, economic stability, and emotional maturity.
And every woman’s secret wish is to be taken care of. I don’t mean just economically, but to find a guy that unconditionally loves her, is faithful to her, gives her attention, and is dedicated to her and making the relationship playful, fun, and make it work.
And that’s not something most younger guys are really in a position to do. Younger guys are still sleeping around, aren’t faithful, aren’t into self-development or figuring out how to make relationships work. So most young girls are very disappointed in their relationships with young men. It’s full of drama and disappointment.
And these young girls feel an older man won’t break their hearts the way younger men have done; they believe that an older man will have the commitment and the willingness required for a long term relationship.
Why Young Girls Are Easier
And most older guys who are say 25 to 50 years old think of younger women as being age 25 to 30 or so. But actually, the very, very younger girls like ages 18 to 22 are sometimes the MOST attractive to older men.
In fact, a girl in her early 20’s is often easier to game than a girl in her late 20’s or early 30’s.
Because a 21 year old girl is just out to have fun, she’s looking to have new experience, and dating a much older man is just another one of those experiences she’s looking to have. She’s in that experimental age and she wants to explore.
But by the time a woman hits 30 and she’s still single, she’s feeling that biological clock ticking. They feel the pressure that they’re not so young anymore and that their beauty is fading. A woman is 29 or 30 or 31 is looking more for a man who’s closer to her own age because she’s more desperate now to settle down and get married and have kids.
So actually, if you’re an in-shape 45 year old, you can actually get more interest in many case from a woman who is 21, as opposed to a woman who is 31 who feels her youth slipping away and is more resistant to older men.
And as far as the younger girls, you know some of these girls ONLY want a guy their own age.
BUT these girls tend to not be as feminine and have lower sex drives. The more sexually open, sexually driven, crazy-for-experimentation driven, and hyper feminine and sexual girls tend to go for older men and bad boys. They tend to like older guys, and that type of young girls also is much better in bed.
So usually you have better luck with the more feminine, hyper sexual girls than the young girl who is more frumpy and unfeminine.
Older Men Are Better For Younger Women
And really, objectively, younger women are generally better off with older men.
You’ve got more to offer her. Maybe you can’t have sex 3 times a day like you did when you were 21, but you offer stability, wisdom, comfort, meaningful companionship, more varied sex… far more so than a young guy who isn’t developed.
In fact, studies show that the relationships that last, and marriages that are least likely to end in divorce, is when the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man. When the woman is 10 to 15 years younger than the man, relationships tend to be more stable.
So if you’re an older guy, and you take care of yourself physically, you’ve actually got some big advantages when it comes to getting far younger girls and you’re most likely a better fit for a younger girl than a boy her own age.
So don’t feel shy or shameful about desiring or seeking out younger women, it’s perfectly natural, good for you, and good for the girls too.
Older Guys – Avoid Being The “Nice Guy”!
Older guys especially get wrapped up in doing “Nice guy game” with younger women.
Nice guy game is looking for indicators of interest from the girl before you’ll talk to her or move forward.
Nice guy game is looking for permission to do anything with the girl.
Nice guy game is being too much of a sweet, sweet grandfatherly gentlemen to the girl.
Nice guy game is all light conversation, asking her questions, but there’s very little conversational leading or getting physical or touching the girl.
Nice guy game is all about reacting to the girl instead of physically leading the girl, or leading the conversation.
Nice guy game is all about trying to impress the girl by not doing anything wrong, instead of not giving a fuck what the girl thinks.
Nice guy game is all about being super friendly with a big smile on your face… but in a supplicating, kiss-her-ass kind of way.
And that’s the problem with older guys in particular, is that they’re too nice, they’re too permission seeking, they’re too approval seeking, they’re conversational but not physical, they’re looking too much for permission and IOIs to escalate or continue.
And they’re just that nice older man to talk to, but ultimately kind of boring to a younger girl because it’s too much like their Dad and not enough like a bad boy.
Basically, you have to run the same game at 35, at age 45, at age 55, at age 65, as if you were the bad boy kid at age 25. The game doesn’t change based on your age when you’re hitting younger girls.
And that’s why there’s really no special “trick” or line or routine for an older guy to pickup younger girls. Because this is a strictly inner game issue.
You’re not going to find any lines or outer game routines that makes it okay for you to approach younger girls. It’s all core attitude, beliefs, entitlement, vibe, and manhood that attracts both younger women and older women to you.
Don’t look for IOIs either
Particularly this waiting for permission or waiting for IOIs (“Indicators Of Interest” )from the younger girl will just sink you completely.
And that’s because, although younger women are attracted to older guys for what they can provide, like more maturity and experience and status and power, younger girls will generally NOT approach you or give you indicators of interest of permission. They make you do ALL the work.
And that’s because what holds a younger woman back, is not what she thinks of you being an older man, but fear of judgment from her friends and peers.
In the same way women fear being labeled sluts if they like to have sex, so they don’t act overtly sexual, they don’t want to be labeled negatively by their friends if they blatantly go after an older man by giving him all sorts of IOI signals to come on over.
So younger girls will generally HIDE their interest from older men for fear of being judged, even though it’s something they’d secretly like to try.
That’s why, as an older man, the ball is completely in YOUR court to go up and talk to the girl, to lead the conversation, and to lead her physically because the much younger girl will in general do nothing to help you. It’s all on you, and being the super nice guy, waiting for permission, light conversation man will generally get you nowhere with younger women.
Not Getting Dates? 10 Ways To Break Through Your Sex Plateaus
Not Getting Dates? 10 Ways To Break Through Your Sex Plateaus
Not sure why you’re not getting more dates?
A plateau is where it seems like you’re stuck at a certain level and you’re not really making progress. Maybe you’ve gone out a lot, but you haven’t ended up with a girl… or it seems like you’re doing the same thing again and again and you’re in this endless loop of repetition where you’re not breaking through to the next level.
Maybe you have sticking points you’re having trouble breaking.
Or maybe you’re just not sure what’s going on and you just feel stuck in a rut.
So here’s some tips I have for you to break through those plateaus.
#1. Have a no-excuses attitude.
Don’t take any bullshit and you’re going to go for the really hot girl no matter what, even taking action or saying something that seems like it would not even have a 3% chance of working, but you just force it out.
Like you see a hot woman at the grocery store and the logistics are all fucked up and you have nothing to say, but you just do it anyway even though you think your chances are 1% of getting anywhere with her.
That will force you to become that guy that always steps up and is a bad ass, and you do that enough and it will change your whole identity with it, breaking the plateau.
#2. Hit on girl after girl after girl and hustle it shamelessly.
Go for sheer volume with no ego and no excuses. That will help rewire your brain and get far more reference experiences to break through your plateau.
#3. Go out every day
Even if it’s just for 15 minutes or 20 minutes a day. That way you keep a level of momentum and you’re not constantly having to start yourself back up from zero every weekend again, and that will help you break through your plateau.
#4.Go for that Perfect 10 girl and blow them off.
So you open really hot girls, 8s, 9s, and 10s, girls that most guys would tear their right arm off to have sex with, and you open the girls, interact, and blow them off. And that’s more challenging than it sounds as these are girls that 99% of the guys will never sleep with in their lives, and you’re just tossing them aside like they’re stale bread. But what that will do is help you get past your outcomes and nervousness and it will break your plateaua.
#5.Create rules that you start living by
Like if you see a certain level of cute girl, you must just automatically approach and say hello to her, and blindly follow your rules and force yourself to open and seek solutions instead of just sitting back and rationalizing a million reasons why you couldn’t talk to the girl. All that extra experience of pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone will break your plateau.
#6. Do whatever it takes to put yourself into state.
Clapping your hands, dancing, doing silly movements, talking a loud, and start having FUN.. doing whatever it takes no matter how weird or uncomfortable it feels to get there, so that at least you’re happy even if your night sucks. But what will usually happen is that if you force yourself to build into a good state, your night will go pretty well, and doing that consistently will break your plateau.
#7. Don’t Seek Instant Gratification.
If you are looking for instant gratification in game and you’re not getting more dates, you will become frustrated.
Like you’re thinking you just want to get laid and you’re needy for a girl and game is a quick fix, then you will find yourself giving up fast.
Because, guys who are successful are out there being social with ALL girls, no matter what the girls look like, ugly or pretty, a lot of time they’re just being sociable and warming up their social muscles. And overall, they’re just building momentum, having fun, and building their state. And learning THAT skill, can take time. It takes practice.
It can take you weeks, or if you are more of a loner or socially awkward, it can take months and months of retraining your brain to actually ENJOY meeting new people and talking to new people and getting over your anxiety about it.
AND only then will you start to get laid, and it’s a more about the process of getting there that is going to be fun and enjoyable, and a challenge, but it’s the challenges in life and overcoming them that we become most proud of and look back on as accomplishments and worth doing it.
But not the sex itself. The sex itself will give you a two day high, “Yes, I got laid!!!” but then you’ll fall back into your old habits and thought patterns and the high will go away. And you may even feel a bit empty after the sex, like “Oh, that’s it? What do I do now? What do I want out of life?”
So looking for instant gratification, instant solving of your problems, you will be disappointed if you’re looking for quick fixes to your emotional state. And if that’s all that’s on your mind, you’ll just go out there, feel anxiety, not want to approach, or you do an approach and you feel like shit and then you give up, because it wasn’t an instant solution – look, don’t be in that mindset.
Instead, look at the long road and enjoying the process of transformation and trying to enjoy the girl right in front of you for the social interaction.
#8. Keep Long Term Goals
Another problem you might have when not getting more dates is just being incapable of having long term goals.
Like you get big IDEAS, but you don’t follow through for more than a few days on anything.
And this is those guys that tend to do badly at school, or they go in all directions with many ideas but with no focus. They have trouble committing to a plan and sticking with it over time.
The kind of guy that gets all excited about working out, but only goes a few times to the gym and then falls off. Or he starts a diet for a few days and falls off. Or he decides he wants to learn a new language, does it for a week, and then falls off. He plans a trip to Costa Rica for a vacation, or Las Vegas, but then doesn’t follow through.
He decides he wants to meet women, he gets excited about it, and then doesn’t follow through.
Look, you’ve got to focus and stick with an action plan for 3 months. So anything big you want to do, like travel, or find a new job, or learn a language, or lose 20 pounds of fat and gain 10 pounds of muscle, or get anywhere with women, these are BIG projects that require at least 90 days, 3 months, of commitment and focusing.
And that may mean on streamlining other things in your life, cutting out things that aren’t useful to you like games or television, or time busters like checking email 10 times a day, or cutting out bad vampire, time-sucking friendships, and streamlining your time so that you can commit for 90 days, through thick and thin.
#9. Understand Meeting Girls Is Not A High-Risk Adventure.
Another problem some guys have is just viewing the game as this high-risk adventure.
Viewing it as this arduous process of needing balls of steel and dealing with fierce shit tests and bitch shields and needing to conquer the game becoming master PUA manipulator and this is the ultimate challenge, the pinnacle of what can be mastered by man.
You know blowing the whole thing up into something more than it really is.
Look, even if you’re just a very average looking guy, as long as you smile, make eye contact, say hello, neutral tonality, accept yourself, trust in your own actions, touch the girl a little, riff and vibe, come across as generally chill and normal, and you are social with everybody like that, you’ve separated yourself from 99% of the other guys. That’s all you need to lay cute girls.
It’s not this super test of steel to do the double-flip backwards super-rama pattern that must be delivered at this exact point, and if not the girl will laugh at you, so bring your balls of steel bro.
Look, this is not a high risk adventure. 95% of cute, normal women are actually very friendly if you have the fundamentals of just smiling and being relaxed, and the voice.
So don’t blow it up into something HUGE, don’t think of it as this Mount Everest to be conquered.
Take it one day at a time, make small improvements each day, practice each day, and just like you would at the gym or learning a language. Just add another little thing each day and practice consistently, and with time it’ll be over. One day you’ll be like wow, I got this. This isn’t that hard.
#10. Be Consistent.
Conversely, a dating problem many guys have is that they’re too casual about it, they’re not consistent enough. Just going out for a few hours on a Friday night, is probably going to be really slow going.
Like if you hit the gym once a week, you can’t expect to become this muscular Adonis that girls are drooling over for his pecs.
You know, really you need to spend two hours a day three times a week, to make progress in a quick pace. And be consistent and dedicated going out. Even if you’re just standing there with your dick in your hand paralyszed by anxiety, just be consistent and go out.
Yeah, because that lack of consistency and dedication will really kill you. And ideally, 3 times a week. And even better, on 3 times a week for four hours at maybe bars and clubs just being social, and on the other days, one hour for some casual day game walkups or sleepy bar nights, just to keep the momentum going a little.
But remain consistent about it. Make it something that you ARE going to do, just like you would just take a shower in the mornings. Make it a habit.
Summing Up…
So, choosing some of those, or ideally doing ALL of them will bust through a plateau pretty quickly and get you more dates because they all involve pushing yourself beyond your normal comfort zone, and that’s generally the reason that plateaus happen… because you’re not really pushing yourself, and you’re stuck at a certain level of comfort of just doing what you’ve always been doing before, and that’s why you don’t really break through to the next level.
And remember, everyone gets stuck, that happens, it can happen quite often, and it often means you’ve got to take some massive action of this kind of level if you want to break the plateau quickly.
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