An Easy Pick Up Formula To Attract Younger Hotties With Frames, Threads, and Nonverbals

An Easy Pick Up Formula To Attract Younger Hotties With Frames, Threads, and Nonverbals


So how do you seduce a girl – what is a good formula?

First, it started with Inner game—> which this is then outwardly expressed through body language, the sub-communication that all woman read.

Inner game and body language is what hits her reptilian circuitry to telegraph that we are the prize (or are of only miniscule size).

Finally comes “outer game”, which is used to tactfully lead a woman from point A to point B. Outer game is mainly used to handle contingencies and obstacles that will arise in social interactions.

However to execute the master plan you need attitude, confidence, and the belief that you will close the deal. So bottom line, project high status body language and an attitude nonverbally.

The Inner Game, or your attitude and body language, is by far the most important factor for seduction mastery in Night Clubs.

I want to talk about the importance of:

-Dominant Frame Control
-Adding value to open, engage, and attract women in mixed sets
-Multiple Thread Theory
-Importance of Leading and escalating the interaction with a woman

So let’s start with the most important concept,

Dominant Frame Control

Remember the one with the stronger belief system and reality dominates those in the vicinity.

What does this mean: Be contagious like cancer, suck the oxygen from the room. “All eyes on me baby” …Get it. Elvis has walked in and I am here to give all of you women my sexy offspring but first I am going to see if you have what it takes to interest me legitimately, offsetting the face value, make up and fake up induced stares that most guys fall trance to simply by a woman’s looks.

Also, when you walk into the club, act like you own the place. Socialize with everyone. Come as if you have your hands full already, like you’re already sexing 10′s , models, high class, A list women of exceptional quality and beauty.

See, what this does is when you talk to a woman, she can feel that you are pre-selected and are just here to have fun and bring the vibe and party to the others.

Remember, women can feel if you are sexy or not to others. When you are just out to fuck around, be playful, fluid, mis-interpret, and be ballsy, it implies a “chilled-out middle finger in the air mentality.” And believe me, women know and decide “Non verbally” before you even open them if you are sex-worthy.

That is why I advocate Inner Game. So beef up your body language and non verbal components. That is why the first phase of my 7 point model groups all of these nonverbal factors into their own phase called the “PRE OPENER – VALUE CALIBRATION” phase where we beef up our nonverbal value. How?

How To Build Nonverbal Value

-Chat up everyone.

-Flash Game – Have girls in your near vicinity engaged by you, embracing you.

-Laugh and vibe with your wing.

-Talk to everyone – ADD Value to other people’s lives.

-Remember the mentality “Don’t look for the party.” You bring the party to their lonesome soles.

-Talk to and engage women, then merge that set with a hotter set or just next the “Pivot” set for the set with the hotter women and it will open so much easily.

-Act as if you are already sexing two or three model-type women. You already got your hands full and are just here because you are bored. Let me ask you, if you had 9 bottles of coke in your fridge, would you care about scoring the tenth bottle? No.

-Misinterpret everything a woman says as wanting you, as wanting to take you home.
IF a woman shit tests you or acts rude, then laugh it off.

-Add value to the group; Remember you are the party and are bringing it to them, not going to them for the party.

-So, when you approach a group, bring value to them. Tell them cool stories that have DHV spikes that demonstrate your alpha traits indirectly to the women and subtly convey that you have higher value than the males in the set.

-Make the guys feel good about themselves but in a very smooth way that simultaneously raises your value in relation to theirs.

-Make the friends or cockblocks feel great about themselves.

-Actively show disinterest to the target, but at the same time… do not ignore her. That is not what group theory is about. You need to “bait her and keep her in set” by bait & hook comments like “Oh shit what is up with your hand”. Or “Hey let me ask you something daddy’s girl…”

A lot of guys make the mistake of completely ignoring the Object Of their Desire. This will make her bored and she will think that, you like the males and are gay or
like her average friends






How To Touch Escalate

Also lead the interaction and touch escalate. How do get a nice gradual touch escalation curve? Here is how:

First, touch her from the very beginning. SO you appear to be just a touch guy from the start and so when you touch her later, it doesn’t surprise or freak her out.

Also remember, you must escalate the interaction and LEAD HER.

She expects nothing less from you when given an open window. If you don’t take that window, you will be in the LJBF (Let’s just be friends) or even worse “DMS” (Dancing Monkey Syndrome).

A lot of guys spend too much wasted time and energy on attracting a woman. That is not needed. Especially in clubs, you don’t need long ass routines, just RFT (Rapid Fire Threads). A lot of it is your attitude, your playful vibe, your charismatic tone, body language and your non-excusing personality to get close to a woman and touch her that will attract her. Also smile, have piercing eye content, engage all sets, groups, win them over, be the loudest, coolest mofo on the block, and that’s it!

How To Build Connection And Comfort

And remember that attraction is only a means to get her to want to connect with you. It is not an end in itself.

For instance, when I get a positive vibe from a woman, I always lead her to the bar and move her around to get her used to the idea of…

Building comfort with me.
“Venue changing with me”
We get drinks together.
Or lead her by the hand to a couch.
Also you must lead her all the way around and through obstacles.


How To Lead A Woman

For instance, on Monday at this upscale lounge, I took my girl by the hand to the bar where a couple of lamo’s were trying to talk to her. So I grabbed her by the hand and turned her to face me and her back to them. She expected that, to be lead by touch and body movement. She went to buy a drink for her girlfriend at the bar and instead of letting her give her girl the drink, I said, “Here sweety I’ll give it to her”. This way I “locked her in” with the beer bottle. I know she will not go away. We went up to her girlfriend and after giving the drink, I had to disarm the obstacle. So after vibing with her for a bit, I said “Okay we (me and my girl) will be there. Come join us”

She was cool with that. Now my student, due to his lack of experience, wasn’t able to engage the friend and on top of that she was mercilessly being hit on by a crew of drunken’ British boys, so the logistics got a bit sticky. But here is the point.

-Always lead your woman
-Guide her
-Dominate the situation for her
-It is your job to keep you and her in a “bubble,” and move her down the seduction tunnel.

Another example, I ran into the two hot Vegas Deluxe show girls type models and just grabbed them and said, “Hi remember me. How are you guys. Come let’s finish our photo.” They were so into it. Then a whole bunch of guys started seeing me doing it and wanted to get their picture with the hotties, so I said girls “Go make ‘em happy… it will make his day I am sure”.

So after a quick snapshot, the other guys were trying to game them. I just grabbed my hotties by the arm, arms around both waist, led them close to me and SNAP! It was on. DO you guys see this… that you must lead, a woman is very turned on by a guy who

Dominates the situation with her
Demonstrates more alphaness and survival value and “infectiveness” to male competition.
Remember, lead the men and the women will follow.

Bottom line, I just took them, guided them, led them away, all with a stronger frame. I didn’t acknowledge anybody else in the vicinity or other guys, or anything else.

Multiple Thread Theory

The whole goal of a pick up is to move the girl from a non-sexual disposition to a playful, flirtations, and sexual direction. How do we do this without creeping her out? Multiple threading.

Here is what most men do:

Guy: “Hey girls, what color do you like pink or blue?”

Girl: “I like blue.”

Guy: “But why, blue is boring.”

Girl: “Yeah, but it is also…”

See how the guy is talking logically and boring her. He is setting up a very bland, friendly frame with her. So what he will do is sequence into asking her for her number… but with no sexual innuendos being implied, no flirtation, and no playfulness. She will feel awkward and will think he is socially inept.

Remember, you must turn the conversation from the opener into things that will make you flirt with her, turn it into a sexual direction, and make you close the space with her and touch her. Here is how it works:

Guy: “Hey girls, what color pink or blue?”

Girl: “Blue.”

Guy: “Oh my god… you are conservative aren’t you…? Goody two shoes…”

Girl: “Why do you say that?”

Guy: “I can see it in your water hands. Do you know you have water hands?”

Girl: “What is that?”

Guy: “Here give me your hands, let me show you… but first let me ask you… what do you have going on for you more than your looks? I mean you are cute but so what…”

See how you are multi-threading from the opener with each thread slowly getting closer to getting her contact info, an isolation, turning it sexual, intimate, and flirtatious?

Do you ever “run out of things to say” to a girl?

Do you ever “run out of things to say” to a girl?


Well, it doesn’t really matter WHAT you say.

It truly doesn’t.

This is from my own experience: what you say, the actual words you use, is NOT what creates the attraction.

First of all, attraction is largely nonverbal.

It’s how you stand, your posture.

It’s whether you’re using trying-for-rapport tonality or breaking rapport tonality.

It’s whether you touch the girl right away in some manner and demonstrate to her that you’re comfortable with touch escalation.

It’s whether you’re coming from a needy place of trying to impress the girl, or whether you’re just cool and calm and trust in yourself.

So it’s everything like body language, eye contact, tonality, projection, where you’re coming from… THESE are the factors that ACTUALLY convey what you’re saying to the girl.

How Men Talk

When men talk to each other it tends to be more informational. Like one guy asks a straight question, and the other guy answers. Or one guy makes a statement and the second guy adds to it.

Like, “Hey did you see that new iPad from Apple?”

And the other guys says, “Yeah I was at the Apple store last week and did this and this and that on it!”

So question and answer. Or statements that relate to each other.



That’s how men talk.

But it’s NOT how women talk.







How Women Talk



When you talk to a girl, instinctually you go in the direction of being very logical with her. And so you think to yourself, “Uh man, I need to say the ‘right thing’ that will impress her. I need to logically pull out the logical thing that will logically make her attracted to me.” Right?

But actually, women like it when what you’re saying is more all over the place, randomly disconnected, doesn’t really make sense from A to B.

Because it’s more exciting that way to girls. It keeps them guessing what you’re going to say next. You’re not trying to impress them or kiss their ass. And if you speak dominantly with breaking-rapport tonality and loud projection, it’s very attractive to women.

So more fluff talk.

Vibing.

Talking about what you find interesting and being passionate about that, even if it’s a “boring” topic.

Jumping around from topic to topic. And so on.



The Mistake Of Talking About What SHE Likes


Another big mistake is trying to find out what SHE likes and talking about THAT.

First of all, trying to talk about the girl’s interests to make her like you, is a subtle form of kiss-ass approval seeking.

And if you’re too interested in everything about her, she’ll pick up that you’re a “nice guy” who is needy and grasping for her approval and for sex from her.

And you have this problem of seeming incongruent. Because you’re not really interested in much of what she has to say, you’re only interested because she’s a cute girl and you want her to like you. Otherwise you wouldn’t be there wasting your time listening to her.

So if she’s talking about something stupid her friends said and did, and you don’t really care, and she goes on and on about it, and you pretend like you’re interested, you’re going to get bored.

And if you are getting bored, through state transference, the energy will fall in the room, and she’ll get bored too.




Talk About What YOU Find Interesting


So you want to stick with things that YOU find interesting, even if they’re about computers or philosophers or economics or travel, and speak with some PASSION.

When you talk about things YOU like, you never run out of things to say.

When you’re speaking with passion, through state transference, she’ll FEEL that passion. The girl wants to FEEL your passion, your leadership. And as long as you’re interested and engaged and leading the conversation, in other words charismatic, she’ll be engaged and interested as well!

And that’s why you have complete license to talk about ANYTHING. If you find it interesting to YOURSELF, and you can speak from a place of passion.

Maybe it’s your bug collection. It doesn’t matter. When you’re passionate about that, about whatever it is, that’s what makes you unique, it makes you real and authentic, and therefore CUTE.

So the topic doesn’t matter. It’s what’s coming through behind the words in your passions.

In other words, women don’t care about WHAT you like.

They just want you to like SOMETHING.



Lower Your Criteria For “What’s Good”


So that means you need to lower your criteria of what is okay to talk about. It doesn’t need to be a string of all of these value-conveying super duper routines that you memorize.

Like you don’t want to say to the girl, “Oh yeah, last weekend I drove my ex-girlfriend who worked at a strip club to this off the hook party and I spotted Keanu Reeves there and it was off the hook…”

None of that really happened and the ex-girlfriend stripper doesn’t exist, they’re just these routines to convey your value to the girl and that you’re cool.

Just doing that is a form of kiss-assing, of approval seeking, of neediness and grasping. You don’t come across as real or authentic and you go inside your head trying to pull out “right thing to say to impress her.”

So screw that! Just say something more like, “Yeah I went to the movies last night and saw Avatar. And I was really impressed with the new technologies they used to do that. And did you know that James Cameron designed a special camera just for that movie to capture realistic movements on actors and convert that to computer graphics.”

And speak with interest and passion about it.

Speak in statements so that you’re leading and sure of yourself. Trust whatever you say is the coolest thing on the planet.

And then jump topics, keep her guessing where you’re going.

“Oh yeah, I made this weird salad last night…”


What Random Thread Jumping Conveys


When you’re just jumping around from topic to topic, talking about what you like, what does that say about you?

Are you trying to impress her and kiss her ass?

No.

It says that you’re completely cool being yourself, being a real guy, in front of a girl of her level of beauty.

It says you’re entitled to that and you’re confident.

So talk about what YOU like. Talk random stupid stuff. And that’s way more authentic than trying to impress the girl with how much money you make and your job or what cities you’ve been to or trying to be overly interested in what she likes.

You see now… your words don’t matter!


How To Handle Silences


Sometimes you get to that “dreaded” silence where you’re thinking to yourself, “Okay, what do I say now to impress this girl?? What do I say now to continue making her like me?? What do I say now that will be really funny and keep her continuously laughing???”

Or you have the girl pumped in the first few minutes, and then it just seems like the conversation begins to wane, lose its energy, or just transition into a normal friendly conversation where all sexual tension is lost and pretty soon it starts to feel uncomfortable.

Now, the reason guys run out of things to say or don’t know what to say next is because their mind, cranking away, is very much focused on “How am I going to IMPRESS the girl? What is the right thing to say to IMPRESS her???”

So your mind is constantly calculating out of fear, trying to force perfection to come out of your mouth, like you’re on a job interview with a very critical boss who is scrutinizing your every response.

So every one of your thoughts goes through the filter, “Is THIS cool enough to say? Nah. What about this? No, I need something cooler. What about this. Okay I’ll try that, that might impress her.”

And there’s too much delay, too much lag between your words and sentences.

And not only is everything you’re saying filtered and conservative, but it comes across as slightly stiff and forced, like you have to go back inside your head to make sure that you can impress the girl, and the girl picks up on that.

It’s a subtle form of supplication, of kissing ass, and the girl can sense that you’re stifled with her and that you see her as being higher value than yourself.


Again, It’s HOW You Speak, Not What You Say


So to get out of this rut and be able to speak with 100% confidence like a really cool guy, the first thing to understand is that HOW your speak is far more important than the actual words you’re using.

So how loud you speak, speaking in neutral and breaking rapport tonality, your eye contact, your body language, says a lot more about how attractive you are than the words you’re using, and the words are just an excuse to display these nonverbal cues.

So when you let go of trying to impress the girl, and just speak unfiltered about what YOU want or whatever comes to your mind… even if it’s how you got dressed that morning or “boring” subjects like what you ate that day…

It allows you to let go enough to focus on the nonverbals like speaking loudly, proper tonality, strong eye contact which conveys confidence and the conversation will go GREAT because the woman is reading your nonverbals behind what you’re saying.

And that’s what makes you attractive.

That, and that you’re not trying to impress her. You’re not putting her up on a pedestal.


Trying To Impress Girls Doesn’t Work


For instance, if I feel I need to impress her by talking about getting a carwash for my car, or my ex girlfriend who was a model, or my trip to Costa Rica, in effect you’re putting the girl up on a pedestal.

But if you walk about how you lost your sock in the laundry, how you ate at an Indian buffet and your stomach almost burst and what the food was like… that’s actually much STRONGER stories, because counter-intuitively they make you look much cooler.

First, they make you seem real and authentic to the girl, and that builds more trust and comfort with the girl, because you’re connecting on a real level.

And second, it tells the girl you’re not trying to impress her. In fact, you talk to hot girls all the time and it isn’t a big deal to talking to her WHATSOEVER in ANY WAY so you feel perfectly find and confident talking about any mundane, normal nonsense.

That’s why you can really lower the bar of what you can say and actually come across as far more real, authentic, and attractive to the girl.

AND it allows you to focus more on your nonverbals like proper volume, sexy tonality, and eye contact instead.

And since you’re not trying to come up with “the perfect thing to say” always, you don’t run out of things to say, because you’re lowering the bar of what’s acceptable.

And that’s win-win-win-win all the way around.

Best Places to Meet Women

Best Places to Meet Women

The biggest mistake most men make here is to only try and pick up girls in a classic pick-up situation - such as a pub or a night-club. When you think about it these are some of the HARDEST places to score - because they are packed with men trying to do the same and there are ALWAYS more men than girls.

However, it is a GOOD learning ground. As I mentioned in earlier articles, observe what they do and how they approach.

The EASIEST places to score are those daily life situations, well away from the pressure of the dance floor. Every time you go out of the house is an opportunity to score.

Remember this simple rule - THE MORE OFTEN A GIRL MEETS YOU IN A DAILY LIFE SITUATION THE MORE LIKELY SHE IS TO DATE YOU. This means that the best places to meet women are places where you will see the same women over and over. It is very difficult to create a real sense of connection the first time you meet someone.

One-off pick ups with complete strangers often lead to no more than one night stands which, at the end of the day, will not be enough to keep you satisfied.

How to Pick Up Girls at Work

How to Pick Up Girls in Pubs and Clubs

How to Pick Up Girls On Holiday

How to Pick Up Girls At Parties

How to Pick Up Girls On Trains, Buses, and in the Street

How to Pick Up Girls Using Dating Agencies

Some Other Good Places to Pick Up Girls

In other words - MAKE EXCUSES IF YOU HAVE TO. Every successful man does it. Maybe you don't want to know about train times but if there's a gorgeous looking girl in the travel agents - why not?

Once you're seeing and meeting as many new girls as possible you can bring this proven four point plan into operation :

1. The Open-Up Level : Making contact with girls you fancy.

2. The Chat-Up Level : Letting them know you're interested, and getting them interested in you.

3. The Warm-Up Level : Getting them to fancy you.

4. The Seduction Level : Developing a closer relationship!

I came across an article by LayGuide about 3 second rules - Even when you actually cannot think about almost anything to initiate a conversation with a girl, anything you do, don't break the 3s rule !

Act in 3 seconds nonetheless, even when you've no clue, how you can continue. Should you act in 3 seconds, she'll notice it, wherever she just appear from or which you popped in from or the way you happened to pass through one another by inside a given physical location.

She'll begin to see the spontaneity inside your approach and it'll operate in your favour. If you wait and hesitate after which choose to approach, you're in a disadvantage situation.

How to Pick up a Girl in a Club

How to Pick up a Girl in a Club

A club can be a particularly frustrating place to meet someone, with all the noise, the crowd and the business of the participants. In fact, most women don't go to clubs to meet men. Yet, many men go to clubs to meet women. Here is a step-by-step guide on the best way to increase your chances of success.

Steps
1. Arrive early. By midnight, most people have already coalesced into groups, making them harder to approach.

2. Start conversations with people in the line-up. A good start is to ask someone if this is the event you are looking for.

3. After entering through the door, make eye contact with the first woman there. Again, "is this the event?" is an opening that will work. Since she's by the door, chances are she has just arrived and is also looking for someone to talk to.

4. Whenever you meet someone, ask if she's there alone or with friends. Then ask to meet her friends. Chances are she'll be happy to introduce. They tend to prefer the group dynamic in this setting.

5. Once you get names, and a few minutes of chit chat, move on. This shows them that you're not desperate and that you have things to do. You can come back to them later as someone they already know.

6. After moving away, you may need to write down the names you just got for later reference.

7. Whatever you do, DON'T BE A WALLFLOWER. Guys who stand against the wall looking longingly at the women gets you pidgenonholed as a typical desperate guy they like to avoid. If you get stuck in such a position, move from it to another vantage point every few minutes before you get another project going.

8. If you feel like resting, find a seat away from the crowd.

9. Have things to do: Bring a camera, explore the place, check out the bathroom, buy a drink, get a napkin. Have a look of Destination on your face. What does this look like? Simple: Just take a look at the busy-looking women as they go from place to place on some seelingly crutial mission.

10. If you see people you know, go over to them. They may end up introducing you to more people.

11. Talk to bouncers and security people. This makes you look important. These people are often bored and will be happy to talk to you.

12. Bring an entourage. It makes you attractive if you are part of a group.

13. If possible, come with a "wing-woman." A wing-woman is an attractive woman who is only a friend. This makes you look attractive.

14. Find someone to dance with. For this, an older or less attractive woman is ideal. They will be happy to dance with you and you will attract the attention of the young and pretty ones who are wondering why you chose this one as opposed to them. When the dance is over, compliment your partner and excuse yourself, then approach any one of the cute ones who will now be looking at you.

15. Talk to female wallflowers. They are open to meeting someone. Even if she is older or less attractive, engage them in conversation. This will make the cute ones wondering (same as #12).

16. Walk around with a big cool looking drink. This will get you attention. Ask the bartender for a recommendation on this.

17. Go outside. They stamp your hand so you might as well use it. Outside there is less competition and a it's less crowded and you can occasionally find a lone woman taking a break or a smoke.

18. Instead of asking for a phone number, ask for a business card. If she says she doesn't have one, ask if she has email.

19. Don't be satisfied with one email or phone number, even if you think she is the "woman of your dreams." Most women will not return a phone call from a guy she met at a club.

20. Make sure to circle around back to the women you met at the beginning. At this point, after missing you, they will be more open to talk.

21. The next day, email all the women. Give them some sort of way for them to remember who you are, and give them your phone number and tell them when you will be available.

Tips
1. If a woman insults you, just say "whatever" and turn away.

2. If a woman displays childish or otherwise condescending or inappropriate behavior, do not feel like you have to play into it: Simply say: "I thought you were interesting, but I see I was mistaken. Good evening," and then turn to walk away. If she's descent she'll apppologize and pull you back.

3. If you see a couple who looks like they might be just friends, try introducing yourself to the guy first. He'll introduce you to her if he's her "wing-man."

4. Don't feel like you have to spend the whole evening talking to one woman. She's there to be with other people too. So if things are going well, ask for an email.

5. Come clean, groomed and wear a nice, pressed, expensive looking dark shirt.

6. If a woman makes eye contact, go for it.

7. If a woman avoids eye contact, you have just been rejected. Move on.

8. If someone indicates that he or she would like to talk to you, for example, by making eye contact, talk to him or her even if you are not interested. This will make you look as busy as anyone else, and makes it look as though you didn't come there to meet pick up women.

9. Don't dance too much by yourself. It makes you look alone. If there's one song you must dance to, do it where you're not too noticeable.

10. For picking up women on the dance floor itself, see the wikihow on how to pick up a woman on a dance floor.

11. If you find yourself with nothing to do, look busy and important: Check your email, text your friends, call your mom, etc. If you don't know what "busy and important" is supposed to look like, just watch the busy and important women doing those things.

12. When choosing a woman to take your picture, pick one who has her own camera. This way (a) she probably knows what she's doing, and (b) after she takes yours, you can continue by offering to take one of her.

Warnings

1. Don't try to pick up the bartender. She's busy. If you must pick her up, only try it either very early or very late if she seems to have time.

2. Keep in mind that most women at clubs are not there to meet new people but to have fun with people they already know.

3. Realize that YOU WILL GET REJECTED as a matter of course by at least some of the women you approach. Some women enjoy the power surge of rejecting someone and get themselves all dolled up just to attract their next victim(s). If you cannot handle this, you should find other places to pick up women.

4. Beware of boyfriends. If you see a couple very close and lovey-dovey, give them space.

5. Occasionally, a woman will be downright rude and insulting. Learn to deal with this.

6. Don't wear cologne. It may attract women you don't want, and turn away others you do want.

7. Do not invest any emotion into any one individual, or the entire project in general. Remember that women who go to clubs are probably too vapid and superficial for the long term anyway.