An Easy Pick Up Formula To Attract Younger Hotties With Frames, Threads, and Nonverbals

An Easy Pick Up Formula To Attract Younger Hotties With Frames, Threads, and Nonverbals


So how do you seduce a girl – what is a good formula?

First, it started with Inner game—> which this is then outwardly expressed through body language, the sub-communication that all woman read.

Inner game and body language is what hits her reptilian circuitry to telegraph that we are the prize (or are of only miniscule size).

Finally comes “outer game”, which is used to tactfully lead a woman from point A to point B. Outer game is mainly used to handle contingencies and obstacles that will arise in social interactions.

However to execute the master plan you need attitude, confidence, and the belief that you will close the deal. So bottom line, project high status body language and an attitude nonverbally.

The Inner Game, or your attitude and body language, is by far the most important factor for seduction mastery in Night Clubs.

I want to talk about the importance of:

-Dominant Frame Control
-Adding value to open, engage, and attract women in mixed sets
-Multiple Thread Theory
-Importance of Leading and escalating the interaction with a woman

So let’s start with the most important concept,

Dominant Frame Control

Remember the one with the stronger belief system and reality dominates those in the vicinity.

What does this mean: Be contagious like cancer, suck the oxygen from the room. “All eyes on me baby” …Get it. Elvis has walked in and I am here to give all of you women my sexy offspring but first I am going to see if you have what it takes to interest me legitimately, offsetting the face value, make up and fake up induced stares that most guys fall trance to simply by a woman’s looks.

Also, when you walk into the club, act like you own the place. Socialize with everyone. Come as if you have your hands full already, like you’re already sexing 10′s , models, high class, A list women of exceptional quality and beauty.

See, what this does is when you talk to a woman, she can feel that you are pre-selected and are just here to have fun and bring the vibe and party to the others.

Remember, women can feel if you are sexy or not to others. When you are just out to fuck around, be playful, fluid, mis-interpret, and be ballsy, it implies a “chilled-out middle finger in the air mentality.” And believe me, women know and decide “Non verbally” before you even open them if you are sex-worthy.

That is why I advocate Inner Game. So beef up your body language and non verbal components. That is why the first phase of my 7 point model groups all of these nonverbal factors into their own phase called the “PRE OPENER – VALUE CALIBRATION” phase where we beef up our nonverbal value. How?

How To Build Nonverbal Value

-Chat up everyone.

-Flash Game – Have girls in your near vicinity engaged by you, embracing you.

-Laugh and vibe with your wing.

-Talk to everyone – ADD Value to other people’s lives.

-Remember the mentality “Don’t look for the party.” You bring the party to their lonesome soles.

-Talk to and engage women, then merge that set with a hotter set or just next the “Pivot” set for the set with the hotter women and it will open so much easily.

-Act as if you are already sexing two or three model-type women. You already got your hands full and are just here because you are bored. Let me ask you, if you had 9 bottles of coke in your fridge, would you care about scoring the tenth bottle? No.

-Misinterpret everything a woman says as wanting you, as wanting to take you home.
IF a woman shit tests you or acts rude, then laugh it off.

-Add value to the group; Remember you are the party and are bringing it to them, not going to them for the party.

-So, when you approach a group, bring value to them. Tell them cool stories that have DHV spikes that demonstrate your alpha traits indirectly to the women and subtly convey that you have higher value than the males in the set.

-Make the guys feel good about themselves but in a very smooth way that simultaneously raises your value in relation to theirs.

-Make the friends or cockblocks feel great about themselves.

-Actively show disinterest to the target, but at the same time… do not ignore her. That is not what group theory is about. You need to “bait her and keep her in set” by bait & hook comments like “Oh shit what is up with your hand”. Or “Hey let me ask you something daddy’s girl…”

A lot of guys make the mistake of completely ignoring the Object Of their Desire. This will make her bored and she will think that, you like the males and are gay or
like her average friends






How To Touch Escalate

Also lead the interaction and touch escalate. How do get a nice gradual touch escalation curve? Here is how:

First, touch her from the very beginning. SO you appear to be just a touch guy from the start and so when you touch her later, it doesn’t surprise or freak her out.

Also remember, you must escalate the interaction and LEAD HER.

She expects nothing less from you when given an open window. If you don’t take that window, you will be in the LJBF (Let’s just be friends) or even worse “DMS” (Dancing Monkey Syndrome).

A lot of guys spend too much wasted time and energy on attracting a woman. That is not needed. Especially in clubs, you don’t need long ass routines, just RFT (Rapid Fire Threads). A lot of it is your attitude, your playful vibe, your charismatic tone, body language and your non-excusing personality to get close to a woman and touch her that will attract her. Also smile, have piercing eye content, engage all sets, groups, win them over, be the loudest, coolest mofo on the block, and that’s it!

How To Build Connection And Comfort

And remember that attraction is only a means to get her to want to connect with you. It is not an end in itself.

For instance, when I get a positive vibe from a woman, I always lead her to the bar and move her around to get her used to the idea of…

Building comfort with me.
“Venue changing with me”
We get drinks together.
Or lead her by the hand to a couch.
Also you must lead her all the way around and through obstacles.


How To Lead A Woman

For instance, on Monday at this upscale lounge, I took my girl by the hand to the bar where a couple of lamo’s were trying to talk to her. So I grabbed her by the hand and turned her to face me and her back to them. She expected that, to be lead by touch and body movement. She went to buy a drink for her girlfriend at the bar and instead of letting her give her girl the drink, I said, “Here sweety I’ll give it to her”. This way I “locked her in” with the beer bottle. I know she will not go away. We went up to her girlfriend and after giving the drink, I had to disarm the obstacle. So after vibing with her for a bit, I said “Okay we (me and my girl) will be there. Come join us”

She was cool with that. Now my student, due to his lack of experience, wasn’t able to engage the friend and on top of that she was mercilessly being hit on by a crew of drunken’ British boys, so the logistics got a bit sticky. But here is the point.

-Always lead your woman
-Guide her
-Dominate the situation for her
-It is your job to keep you and her in a “bubble,” and move her down the seduction tunnel.

Another example, I ran into the two hot Vegas Deluxe show girls type models and just grabbed them and said, “Hi remember me. How are you guys. Come let’s finish our photo.” They were so into it. Then a whole bunch of guys started seeing me doing it and wanted to get their picture with the hotties, so I said girls “Go make ‘em happy… it will make his day I am sure”.

So after a quick snapshot, the other guys were trying to game them. I just grabbed my hotties by the arm, arms around both waist, led them close to me and SNAP! It was on. DO you guys see this… that you must lead, a woman is very turned on by a guy who

Dominates the situation with her
Demonstrates more alphaness and survival value and “infectiveness” to male competition.
Remember, lead the men and the women will follow.

Bottom line, I just took them, guided them, led them away, all with a stronger frame. I didn’t acknowledge anybody else in the vicinity or other guys, or anything else.

Multiple Thread Theory

The whole goal of a pick up is to move the girl from a non-sexual disposition to a playful, flirtations, and sexual direction. How do we do this without creeping her out? Multiple threading.

Here is what most men do:

Guy: “Hey girls, what color do you like pink or blue?”

Girl: “I like blue.”

Guy: “But why, blue is boring.”

Girl: “Yeah, but it is also…”

See how the guy is talking logically and boring her. He is setting up a very bland, friendly frame with her. So what he will do is sequence into asking her for her number… but with no sexual innuendos being implied, no flirtation, and no playfulness. She will feel awkward and will think he is socially inept.

Remember, you must turn the conversation from the opener into things that will make you flirt with her, turn it into a sexual direction, and make you close the space with her and touch her. Here is how it works:

Guy: “Hey girls, what color pink or blue?”

Girl: “Blue.”

Guy: “Oh my god… you are conservative aren’t you…? Goody two shoes…”

Girl: “Why do you say that?”

Guy: “I can see it in your water hands. Do you know you have water hands?”

Girl: “What is that?”

Guy: “Here give me your hands, let me show you… but first let me ask you… what do you have going on for you more than your looks? I mean you are cute but so what…”

See how you are multi-threading from the opener with each thread slowly getting closer to getting her contact info, an isolation, turning it sexual, intimate, and flirtatious?

Self-Amusement And Making Girls And Dating FUN Again

Self-Amusement is a particularly important concept for nighttime game, like at bars and clubs. Less so if you’re doing day game, but the principles are still important.

The idea of self-amusement is that you want to have FUN meeting girls. That going out is not supposed to be so serious, and the state you want really is to be totally relaxed and giving out positive energy.

So self-amusement can be yelling, singing, busting jokes, chatting up the people around you, talking to your friends from across the room. Making silly faces at girls, poking girls, playing games with the girls like thumb wrestling. Saying things that are absurd, hilarious, offensive, non-sensical.

Basically have your own fun.

Be positive, radiate it!

So the key here is that you want to practice making yourself laugh. So that you can just walk up to the girls and just make yourself laugh, and the girls will instantly be into it.

Because if you’re going to go out, you might as well make it fun. Because if you’re not having fun, let’s face it, the club and bar are pretty miserable. So you’re number one question you should be asking yourself is, “How can I make this FUN for myself?”

Why Self-Amuse? It Draws Women In
Self-amusement draws the women in like crazy… because when everything is FUN for you and no big deal, everything because FUN and no big deal to the girls either, because of state transference.

So you can say shocking and wild things that might otherwise make a girl pissed off, but she’ll feel good about it, because YOU feel so good. Meaning she’s going to pick up on your good state, not the content of your words.

And that’s part of the self-amusement, is positive leading. Plow over any bullshit or negativity a girl has. Just ignore it. Ignore any bullshit or negative nonsense and plow the girl over with your positivity and what will happen is, the girl will be attracted to your better state and you’ll pull her in, she’ll want to enter your reality of fun and positivity if you just persist a little.

And then you never look like you’re getting rejected either. It’s more like the girls are simply leaving your party which is more fun than theirs.







Don’t Be So Logical And Serious

Because here’s the thing. Most guys in bars and clubs are being too logical. They’re too logical and they’re too safe. It’s like they’re giving the girl their resume. “Hi, my name is Joe, I’m a cool guy you should get to know and I have X, Y, Z going for me, and listen to this funny routine I memorized.”

Screw logical approaches, screw rational thinking. You want to become the party, even if it feels retarded. You want to approach, be positive, fun, and dominant.



Self-Amusement Versus Reacting


So let me breakdown a comparison of self-amusement to reacting to the environment.

Self-amusement: you control how you feel from inside, instead of letting the outside environment and outside stimulus determine how you feel. So whether you’re getting good reaction or bad reactions, it doesn’t matter, your state is internally generated.

Self-amusement: stronger emotions, you are where the party is at.

Self-amusement: you persist, you stay in set, because how you act and respond doesn’t depend on how the girl is reacting to you. You bring the fun, and you allow the girl to react to you.

Self-amusement: total fun and nonsense instead of being logical and calculating.

Self-amusement: you’re generating the fun instead of looking for other people to make you happy and bring the fun.

Self-amusement: you’re making fun to amuse yourself. It is NOT meant to impress the girl or convey value.

Self-amusement: you don’t care about the girl’s reactions, you have self-trust that all people on Earth respond well to fun and positivity through the law of state transference.

Self-amusement: You’re pumping your own state instead of looking to the girls to pump your state.

Self-amusement: You’re in your own personal universe, in your own reality of fun and positivity, sucking girls into your vortex, instead of looking to the girls to make you happy with validation.

Self-amusement: You generate your own positive energy internally, you’re not pinging off the environment or girls to determine how you should feel.

So that’s a basic breakdown of how a guy who is self-amusing himself sees the world, versus a guy who is reacting to everything in his environment and looking for positive validation from girls to make him feel happy.

Make Everything Self-Amusing
So the best way to self-amuse yourself and be a cool, charismatic guy is to find everything in the world as funny and entertaining to you.

Instead of being pissed off or down, or walking around depressed, instead by the fun, positive guy who finds everything self-amusing and funny. And the girl will feel lit up just by being in your presence.

If the girl is having fun then she’ll keep coming back to you for more of it. Look at it as like you’re offering her a gift of good feelings. Not that you’re trying to pump up her feelings, but by making yourself amused and happy and feeling good, you’re giving her a part of yourself.



Lower Your Standards

The key to becoming self-amused then is you’ve got to lower your standards for having fun. You’ve got to be able to make everything fun and be able to have your own fun, even if you’re by yourself. You can clap your hands to the music, smile, say hello to girls in funny and strange ways to see what kind of funny and strange reactions you’ll get.

It’s like if your household chore is that it’s your job to wash the dishes, and you hate washing dishes. You’ve got to decide that washing dishes will be your favorite task and start to love it. You’ve got to lower your standards of happiness.


Don’t Be A “Dancing Monkey”

Now, here’s a word of warning.

Self-amusement is not about getting giggling attraction from girls or acting like a clown to entertain them and get their approval or make the girls like you.

It’s more about pushing the boundaries of pissing them off and breaking rapport. You’re trying to make yourself laugh, not the girls. That’s very important. This is NOT about impressing the girls and making them like you, but about having your own FUN.

So it’s not funny to the girls. It should be funny to YOU.

You’re getting your pleasure and kicks from the girl’s reactions, positive OR negative. And because you draw her into what YOU think is funny, now the GIRL will often think it’s funny.

You Sill Need Sexual Intent

Another thing. You also want to have sexual intent when you do self-amusement. You can have a lot of fun and shenanigans and get tons of interest from women and own the bars and clubs and have girls all over you.

But just having FUN itself is not enough to get you laid. You also need to have sexual intent and physical leading and persisting in the set as well. You still need to man up and push the set. So you’ve got to balance self-amusement with making a connection with a girl and moving it forward.

Make Going Out FUN

Focus less on the goal of “getting a girl to like me” through a trial of sweat and tears, and work, and trial by fire, and needing manly balls of steal, or needing to go through this incredible regimen of constant self-improvement to just make a girl like you.

But transform the process into what it should be. FUN!!

Transform it into a process that actually RECHARGES your batteries, and doesn’t tire you out.

So that you can go out in a single day or single evening and meet a bunch of new girls being very CHILL, very easily, with NO pressure, get a lot of girls instantly-on attracted to you, and having a casual FUN time doing it.

So that you feel better, there’s far less pressure, it feels good, you feel happy, and meeting women becomes like your time off.

It’s chill, it’s all cool, it’s fun, it recharges up your batteries, and as a side effect to just being this glorious aspect of your life, you get laid with cuties! As just part of the process of going out being cool and FUN.

Spending more time of your day happy and smiling and feeling energized and positive.

Itching to go outside, because you KNOW you’ll be meeting beautiful new girls, you know that they’re going to be into you, and you know you’re going to get physical with them.

Where going out is FUN.

Going out is a blast.

Going out is truly awesome.

As a great way to have new adventures.

And to bring happiness and aliveness and vitality BACK into your life!

To develop a full dating life where you can meet a hot girlfriend who’s really into you.


“What To Say” to girls and self-amusement
 Now if you’re having issues with your conversation being boring, or not having something to say, it’s because you’re being too serious in what you want to say and trying to impress the girl.

Instead, you want to move toward being positive, playful, silly, not trying to impress her, and think of how you can make this FUN. How can you self-amuse YOURSELF with this girl?

And if you make the conversation about having some silly fun, and self-amusing, the girl will have fun too.

Force The Fun

Basically, you want to FORCE the fun. Be the party. That no matter what is going on, you’re going to make this fun somehow, you’re going to force it.

That’s what being the guy who is the life of the party is!

You know, the guy where everyone in the room can be tired and beat and slow, and this guy shows up and the whole energy of the room changes. Him being around, you start getting excited, laughing, it’s fun, because the guy is forcing the fun.

So how do you force the fun?

Basically having a really strong frame of positivity and that everything is awesome and any situation can be made fun!

Also, you did it by lowering your threshold to have fun. You see, most people set a very high bar for feeling happy. They think they can only feel fun and happiness if they’re on vacation on a tropical beach, or if they’re getting laid with a hot girl. They need all these conditions checked off before they think they can feel good and positive.

But really, having fun and feeling positive is always a choice.

You can just DECIDE to have fun in any moment.

And if you FORCE it, even if the girls around you are being bitchy or neutral or boring, if you FORCE the fun, they’ll enjoy your state more than they enjoy their own, and they’ll gravitate to your fun, literally getting sucked into your frame of positivity no matter what.

Now this forcing the fun, and self-amusement is really critical in a club environment where it’s essential to suck women into your positivity, and somewhat less so in day game.

But even day game you can still be laughing with the girl, joking around, and she’ll love your for that. The key is not to be canned, but to ride on the edge of chaos and let it free flow.

So just self-amuse yourself, enjoy life, and girls will want to be around you. Don’t look for things in your environment to tell you now is the time to be happy, don’t wait for someone else or something else to pump you up with happiness, being happy is a decision you make in every moment.

Having Fun Takes Energy

And that takes energy. Feeling good and having fun and sucking girls into your reality does take energy. It takes work to force that smile, to force that positive energy, to laugh, and to embrace what the moment is giving you and express that.

It’s really easier to sit down and fuzz out in front of the television, it conserves energy to chill out.

So while intellectually we think, “Yeah, I want the girls, I want the party, I want the fun and happiness,” in reality it’s easier to just sit back and check our email.

So you do need to take action, and massive action at that to start the self-amusement process and start changing your habits and neural circuitry to be conveying fun and positivity – to be fantastically fun throughout your day, in a way that DRAWS people in.

But once you’ve got that, girls are attracted to you because you exude the party, they want to be around you, and they want to be just like you.