The Art of Approaching Women
All men want to be able to talk freely with women. It’s the first step to winning their hearts, getting them to go on a date with you, or getting them to go home with you. However, approaching a woman has to be one of the most daunting tasks there is.
You may second-guess yourself, stutter, say something stupid or inappropriate, and fail to impress her.
You may be afraid that she’ll laugh at you instead of with you or turn you down before giving you a chance.
Mastering the art of approaching women is one way to get over all of those insecurities and fears. Below, find a lot of helpful tips to use when approaching any new woman for the first time.
First
impressions are everything, so think carefully about the first words
you say to a woman. The best approach is to always say something
genuine. Don’t spout out clichéd pick-up lines like “what’s your
sign?” These overused lines are the most unoriginal thing out there.
More often than not, they fail to grab a woman’s attention
because they’ve heard them before. Of course, some men can’t think of
anything else to say. If you have to use a well-known pick-up line,
then try to have an original delivery. Getting a woman to laugh while using an old pick-up line will help you get your foot in the door.
A better approach than pick-up lines is to compliment the girl. Don’t act sleazy while you do it, though. If you approach a woman and obviously check her out while telling her she looks hot, she may feel insulted.
It’s because no woman likes to be looked at as if she’s a piece of meat
you want to sink your teeth into. However, if you approach her and
smile and compliment her hair, her eyes, or her outfit, you may really
flatter her. Telling her that you couldn’t resist coming over to talk
to her is another good approach.
If nothing else, it’ll get her talking and give you a chance to learn
her name. She may even lead the conversation from there, which takes
away the pressure of finding a topic of conversation.
Doing
a little research before you approach a girl is never a bad idea. If
you’re at a store and you see her in line, take the time to examine what
she’s buying. If it’s a movie or CD you know something about, you can
approach her and tell her what a good purchase she’s making and then
introduce yourself.
If
you spot her at a bar and she’s ordering a certain kind of drink, then
pay attention to when she finishes it. Then you can buy her a second
one and use it as an excuse to approach her. Of course, buying her a
drink doesn’t guarantee that she’ll want to talk to you, so don’t expect
anything from it.
However,
it’s a good way to get her attention. If she’s at a sports game and
cheering for a certain team, you can either cheer with her or lightly
tease her for supporting the wrong team (depending on which side you’re
rooting for).
Why does doing a little research first work? When approaching a woman, starting a conversation
is often the hardest thing to do. Once the two of you start talking,
everything is fine. So, if you approach her and bring up a topic you
know she’s interested in, it’s much easier than if you go in blind.
So, use your powers of observation to figure out something she may like
to talk about. Don’t listen in to her conversations or overtly stare
at her all night trying to figure it out, but some subtle “research”
can’t hurt you.
Another
important tip to remember when approaching women is that confidence is
key. Even if you’re completely nervous, you have to work up the
confidence to approach her. Be brave and you won’t stumble over your
words and embarrass yourself.
A
friendly smile can show this confidence, even if you don’t feel it.
And as long as the woman sees that you look confident, she’ll be
impressed.
Along
with confidence, you need to master some basic rules. Don’t appear too
needy or clingy. Don’t hang all over her or invade her personal
space. Approaching women is an art form because you have to learn how
close is too close and know when to back off.
A
good rule of thumb is to stand a foot or so away from the woman and
speak clearly. However, if you speak a little quietly, she may lean
into you to hear you, which means she gets to choose how close you get.
Letting the woman take control is a great approach.
Finally,
you have to realize that you won’t always have a successful approach.
Some women won’t be won over by your charms. There can be many reasons
for this – she’s already taken, she’s just out with the girls tonight,
she’s just had a bad break up – but it doesn’t mean anything is wrong
with you.
If you have one failed approach, don’t let that stop you. If at first you don’t succeed, try again with a different woman.
For
most men, practice makes perfect. Not all women will react to your
approach in a manner you desire, but that doesn’t mean you should ever
quit. Put yourself out there and use the above tips to conquer your
fears. A lot of women will respond if you are genuine and if you act
natural.
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